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justinbrown
12-31-07, 8:14 pm
hey guys...as a teen im finding it hard this newyears to find anything to do...im sort of on the fence:
i have 2 options tonight:
A.) party with friends...smoke pot/get hammered/both
B.) stay at home and do nothing...as all my friends are out partying
on one hand i want to just let loose and party...my gyms closed tomorrow...so id have a day to recover...but on the other hand...i dont want to...its bad for you...and i might get into some trouble (you never know wtf could happen downtown on newyears) so im really on the fence...i dont want to spend my newyears alone...thats brutal...
i know i could just hang with friends and not do anything...but im not going to lie...if someone handed me a drink...i wouldnt be able to refuse it...
anyone else with this dilemma?
ThirdEye
12-31-07, 8:24 pm
Depends how badly you want to progress in bodybuilding/powerlifting. You have to sacrifice in this lifestyle, in order to gain and reap the benefits.
I would of said, go to the party, no problem. Parties wont affect your progression, its what you let yourself succumb to that will be your downfall. Go and drink fruit juice...
But you answered your own question here... " i know i could just hang with friends and not do anything...but im not going to lie...if someone handed me a drink...i wouldnt be able to refuse it..." [ Quote ]
Also, if your friends cant respect your decision to stay sober, then the biggest dilemma facing you is "who are my friends?"
The fact you even considered this an option...
A.) party with friends...smoke pot/get hammered/both
.....means you gotta lot of evaluating to do before you can really start thinking about bodybuilding, its your choice...
justinbrown
12-31-07, 8:26 pm
Depends how badly you want to progress in bodybuilding/powerlifting. You have to sacrifice in this lifestyle, in order to gain and reap the benefits.
I would of said, go to the party, no problem. Parties wont affect your progression, its what you let yourself succumb to that will be your downfall. Go and drink fruit juice...
But you answered your own question here... " i know i could just hang with friends and not do anything...but im not going to lie...if someone handed me a drink...i wouldnt be able to refuse it..." [ Quote ]
Also, if your friends cant respect your decision to stay sober, then the biggest dilemma facing you is "who are my friends?"
The fact you even considered this an option...
A.) party with friends...smoke pot/get hammered/both
.....means you gotta lot of evaluating to do before you can really start thinking about bodybuilding, its your choice...
you bet...i didnt want to choose option A but damn...yeah...ive made my decision...looks like im home tonight...thanks for the words my friend
im doing way too good in this stuff to do stupid shit like that...im at 215 right now and its only going up...i know ill pay the price the whole week under the barbell if i party tonight...i want to be huge way more than i want to have 2 hours of fun then pass out somewhere
thanks again
There's a third option bro, go out with your friends, have a great time, dont drink, dont smoke. If they start ragging on you or pressuring you, tell em to fuck off, you're training. Have fun, but having fun doesnt mean you have to screw yourself over.
ThirdEye
12-31-07, 8:28 pm
Wise words from 'THE HOUSE'...
YOU ARE YOUR MAKER!
just think, is it worth it?
justinbrown
12-31-07, 8:36 pm
There's a third option bro, go out with your friends, have a great time, dont drink, dont smoke. If they start ragging on you or pressuring you, tell em to fuck off, you're training. Have fun, but having fun doesnt mean you have to screw yourself over.
its rather hard to have fun when you...the sober guy...being around all these hammered people acting like total damned retards the entire night...id end up KO-ing one i think hahahaha
Bro, take a look at Ted Nugent, craziest mo-fo out there, and he never touched booze or drugs. He's my inspiration for having fun. Nothing needed but yourself.
jeff00z28
12-31-07, 8:40 pm
i personally cant stand pott heads. I would stay home. I genereally dont hang out w/ pottheads other than a few that I have known for about 15 years... but they know not to call me if they are going to be doing that. Also u have pretty good numbers for 16
BigCountry021
12-31-07, 8:42 pm
If it was me, I would go out with my friends and have a good time, but you better believe the only thing I'm drinking is a big bottle of water and I would definitely have a backpack for some food.
justinbrown
12-31-07, 8:50 pm
i personally cant stand pott heads. I would stay home. I genereally dont hang out w/ pottheads other than a few that I have known for about 15 years... but they know not to call me if they are going to be doing that. Also u have pretty good numbers for 16
thanks dude...and yeah...unfortunately...im in quite a big drug town...theres nothing really for us kids to do nowadays aside from drugs...its sad...im so lucky i have the gym...or id most likely be pretty hard into them if i lived here...ive only got 1 friend who doesnt do any of that stuff (fellow BBer) but hes not one to really go out much at all
ah well...ill just relax at home...grab a movie or something
nothing wrong with taking a night to yourself, sitting back and just relaxing, enjoying time with your family man, your biggest support group. also i find the nights where i am alone it allows me to think clearly about my training, my diet and my journey.
Pizzalamp
12-31-07, 8:57 pm
In the words of Henry Rollins
"Keep your body lean, your blood clean, and mind sharp"
justinbrown
12-31-07, 9:02 pm
nothing wrong with taking a night to yourself, sitting back and just relaxing, enjoying time with your family man, your biggest support group. also i find the nights where i am alone it allows me to think clearly about my training, my diet and my journey.
yeah...gonna get my buddy over here and well just watch a movie
lol i wish my family supported me...they do kind of...but they think im taking it too far going to 230 in may...they pay for my food and thats about it haha!
pmug0000
12-31-07, 9:14 pm
thanks dude...and yeah...unfortunately...im in quite a big drug town...theres nothing really for us kids to do nowadays aside from drugs...its sad...im so lucky i have the gym...or id most likely be pretty hard into them if i lived here...ive only got 1 friend who doesnt do any of that stuff (fellow BBer) but hes not one to really go out much at all
ah well...ill just relax at home...grab a movie or something
I'm in the same exact situation bro. You should check out my thread titled "Avoiding Temptation on New Years Eve." I just went on a kind of long rant, but I think we've got a lot in common.
I'm staying at my parent's for the holidays, which is in the town where all my old high school friends live. I am in my sophomore year in college, and I see these old friends only around the holidays. Back in high school, all we did was drink and do about every drug under the sun. I used to love that shit.
Tonight though - I'm taking a big step for myself. I'm finally taking shit more seriously. I haven't progressed in bodybuilding as much over the past couple years as I would have liked. I used to wonder why. Maybe it was because of frequent drinking and drug use holding me back. Maybe not.
Either way, tonight I'm staying away from all that shit. I'll enjoy some good home-cooked food, and maybe I'll go out later; maybe I won't.
Whatever I end up doing tonight it WON'T include getting hammered and stoned. Will it be fun? Not particularly. But will it be worth it to know that I don't need that same old shit anymore? I think so.
Whether or not you go out with friends tonight - think about the goals you are striving towards. If you go out, you probably will not ruin or dreams or destroy your life, but your not sure as hell not going to be doing yourself any good either.
Just consider what is important to you, and make your decision based on that.
justinbrown
12-31-07, 9:22 pm
I'm in the same exact situation bro. You should check out my thread titled "Avoiding Temptation on New Years Eve." I just went on a kind of long rant, but I think we've got a lot in common.
I'm staying at my parent's for the holidays, which is in the town where all my old high school friends live. I am in my sophomore year in college, and I see these old friends only around the holidays. Back in high school, all we did was drink and do about every drug under the sun. I used to love that shit.
Tonight though - I'm taking a big step for myself. I'm finally taking shit more seriously. I haven't progressed in bodybuilding as much over the past couple years as I would have liked. I used to wonder why. Maybe it was because of frequent drinking and drug use holding me back. Maybe not.
Either way, tonight I'm staying away from all that shit. I'll enjoy some good home-cooked food, and maybe I'll go out later; maybe I won't.
Whatever I end up doing tonight it WON'T include getting hammered and stoned. Will it be fun? Not particularly. But will it be worth it to know that I don't need that same old shit anymore? I think so.
Whether or not you go out with friends tonight - think about the goals you are striving towards. If you go out, you probably will not ruin or dreams or destroy your life, but your not sure as hell not going to be doing yourself any good either.
Just consider what is important to you, and make your decision based on that.
true words indeed...thanks alot everyone
dont get blown away...its a waist...and if staying at home keeps you healthy...then do it....Im home....without my son...girlfriend dumped me fore the night....and its not a nice situation.....Im alone...and done.....the beast beat me this time
ironshaolin
12-31-07, 9:47 pm
dont get blown away...its a waist...and if staying at home keeps you healthy...then do it....Im home....without my son...girlfriend dumped me fore the night....and its not a nice situation.....Im alone...and done.....the beast beat me this time
I feel ya K1, my parents took the baby for the night so I could go out, girlfriend went to a rave in the city, all my friends were goin to parties to drink so I came home.
to me new years eve is just another day..even when i used to party,i always thought new years was amature hour and i never wanted anything to do with it...i still don't...mind over matter my friend...
I feel ya K1, my parents took the baby for the night so I could go out, girlfriend went to a rave in the city, all my friends were goin to parties to drink so I came home.
my girlfriend is pissed at my 4 year old...wants to call it off...after 2 years.....she wants to dump me over dumb shit.......gone through this before...she always comes back sorry...but it gets old.....oh well......and get this...missed the gym for her tonight what a waist....well.....guess Im just home alone and fucked out of a chest workout.....so I sit here looking at her roses I got for her ......baked her brownies....and she comes over and unloads on me......wish the gym was open........
to me new years eve is just another day..even when i used to party,i always thought new years was amature hour and i never wanted anything to do with it...i still don't...mind over matter my friend...
I feel the same way, to me there's only two types of days, training days and non-training days.
ironshaolin
12-31-07, 9:59 pm
my girlfriend is pissed at my 4 year old...wants to call it off...after 2 years.....she wants to dump me over dumb shit.......gone through this before...she always comes back sorry...but it gets old.....oh well......and get this...missed the gym for her tonight what a waist....well.....guess Im just home alone and fucked out of a chest workout.....so I sit here looking at her roses I got for her ......baked her brownies....and she comes over and unloads on me......wish the gym was open........
how do you get pissed at a 4 year old? I mean, I have a 4 year old daughter, and I know they can certainly work your nerves sometimes, but its all innocent. Hang in there bud, they'll always either come around, or leave in which case you're probably better off.
how do you get pissed at a 4 year old? I mean, I have a 4 year old daughter, and I know they can certainly work your nerves sometimes, but its all innocent. Hang in there bud, they'll always either come around, or leave in which case you're probably better off.
I know...she has loved my son for 2 years...and now he just hit 4 last sept..and does not act like a monster...my girl friend is just so sensitive...thinks he will ruin her future...and if we had our own kids...it would not be special because I have 3 of my own from a previous....if I had a child with my new love here...it would be a wonderful occation....b ut she sees it different.......this is a sad night for me bro....hating it
ironshaolin
12-31-07, 10:12 pm
that sucks dude. Women can really have a warped sense of reality sometimes. I don't know her or anything so I don't like to place judgement, but it seems like she has a somewhat negative outlook on life, and from my experiences I've found people like that tend to try and bring down good people aorund them. I'm sorry you have to be going through this on new years eve.
and just 3 days ago...whe was with me talking about changing her name when we get married.....getting a dog....living in San Francisco....."45 min from here"....fuck ......you are right...sometimes its amazing....if my son was not with us at dinner last night...I would be with her and her family at dinner tonight...but one insodent...and it was my son almost falling out of his booster seat....and I caught him...no big deal..she sees it as a huge ambarrasment....which is weak.....Im hating this night...but would not be suprised to see her back here tonight ....its just how things go sometimes.....
Fury317
12-31-07, 10:43 pm
to me new years eve is just another day..even when i used to party,i always thought new years was amature hour and i never wanted anything to do with it...i still don't...mind over matter my friend...
WOW SPEAKING THE TRUTH!!!! I FEEL 100% THE SAME WAY!!!
I was never a fan of new years, even when i did go out with friends. im at home eating 14 fucking hard boiled eggs, sipping on some glutamine water and hot tea and going to bed before that God forsaken balls drops. SCREW IT HAHA! Im in this sport to win, not to slip up and feel bad about it the next day.
Macrobolic
12-31-07, 10:47 pm
hey guys...as a teen im finding it hard this newyears to find anything to do...im sort of on the fence:
If you've got the will, go with your friends, but don't smoke or drink. I've done that for years, I've just never wanted to do any of that junk.
If you can't stay away from it when you are with them though, don't go. Do something with your family. Just my 2 cents
justinbrown
01-01-08, 2:28 am
and just 3 days ago...whe was with me talking about changing her name when we get married.....getting a dog....living in San Francisco....."45 min from here"....fuck ......you are right...sometimes its amazing....if my son was not with us at dinner last night...I would be with her and her family at dinner tonight...but one insodent...and it was my son almost falling out of his booster seat....and I caught him...no big deal..she sees it as a huge ambarrasment....which is weak.....Im hating this night...but would not be suprised to see her back here tonight ....its just how things go sometimes.....
K1 im sorry to hear about that shit man...i havent been in your situation (as ive never had a gf...lol...im 16...better get on that)...so i cant really relate...but i can see that thats a pretty brutal situation for you...all the best dude
i cant remember who said it (wrath maybe?)
"find solace in the iron"
im not regretting my decision to stay home at all...
gripperm
01-01-08, 2:32 am
There's a third option bro, go out with your friends, have a great time, dont drink, dont smoke. If they start ragging on you or pressuring you, tell em to fuck off, you're training. Have fun, but having fun doesnt mean you have to screw yourself over.
That is how to be a Hardcore Animal
sounds like your friends need to be updated. if your 'friends' truly cared about you and knew how hard you work, and how passionate you are....they wouldnt hand you that drink. they would know. 'hey justin is a freaking animal. his body is his canvas, and he doesnt trash it.' i think you should have a heart to heart with your buddies....good luck brother. were all here.
good call bro.......good to see you here tonight bro......nothing like a strong young member and its appreciated...
justinbrown
01-01-08, 3:59 am
sounds like your friends need to be updated. if your 'friends' truly cared about you and knew how hard you work, and how passionate you are....they wouldnt hand you that drink. they would know. 'hey justin is a freaking animal. his body is his canvas, and he doesnt trash it.' i think you should have a heart to heart with your buddies....good luck brother. were all here.
they do respect it alot dude...im not saying that theyr not....they more just dont understand you know? they respect what im doing...they still dont get it though
Nulllogik
01-01-08, 8:44 am
I went out, worked out chest earlier. And hung out with friends till after midnight. I didnt have to drink or smoke. And i didnt.
I did eat a lot, and scored a shit load of sugar free red bulls from a rep...
All about control, its easy to say no.
And sorry to hear about your situation K1.
my girlfriend is pissed at my 4 year old...wants to call it off...after 2 years.....she wants to dump me over dumb shit.......gone through this before...she always comes back sorry...but it gets old.....oh well......and get this...missed the gym for her tonight what a waist....well.....guess Im just home alone and fucked out of a chest workout.....so I sit here looking at her roses I got for her ......baked her brownies....and she comes over and unloads on me......wish the gym was open........
Oh Man....
I wish we lived more close to each other.
It would be my honour to invite you to spend the evening with my family here and we would be pumping some Iron together in the first hours of 2008.
Oh Man....
I wish we lived more close to each other.
It would be my honour to invite you to spend the evening with my family here and we would be pumping some Iron together in the first hours of 2008.
it would be MY honor to meet you and your family....like I have said many times...this forum consist of so many geat people.....my blessings...my power....my animal spirit to you bro......always brothers in iron........and my girl is coming over today..so we shall see...
it would be MY honor to meet you and your family....like I have said many times...this forum consist of so many geat people.....my blessings...my power....my animal spirit to you bro......always brothers in iron........and my girl is coming over today..so we shall see...
My prayers are with you today my friend.
You'll see, everything will be sorted.
Every problem we face in this life makes us stronger in the end.
under7he13lood
01-01-08, 8:22 pm
wish i would have read this last night. i faced the same dilemma, people kept calling/texting asking where i was going, what i was doing. all i could think about was i don't want to do anything, i want to stay clean and strong for the gym. alas, i didnt, and i was a giant pile of waste all day. today was a day off either way, but i could have at least done cardio or something productive. My new years resolution is to stop making compromises. And thanks to all of you, that decision is going to be much easier. Thank you and God Bless.
-sam
pmug0000
01-01-08, 8:28 pm
wish i would have read this last night. i faced the same dilemma, people kept calling/texting asking where i was going, what i was doing. all i could think about was i don't want to do anything, i want to stay clean and strong for the gym. alas, i didnt, and i was a giant pile of waste all day. today was a day off either way, but i could have at least done cardio or something productive. My new years resolution is to stop making compromises. And thanks to all of you, that decision is going to be much easier. Thank you and God Bless.
-sam
Glad we could help. I was debating in my mind all last night about whether or not to go party.
I know if I would have gone out, I'd have gotten hammered as hell, and I finally talked myself into just staying at home. At first I kind of felt shitty that I was just going to be sitting with the fam on New Years Eve, but you know what? It really wasn't so bad.
I know now, in the future when the same type of shit comes up, I don't need to make such a big fuckin deal about whether or not to go back to certain old habits.
It's a New Year, and I am not going to let drugs be such an issue.
Ya i chose to go out have 1 beer, and come home to sleep before this week of lifting comes. My gym closed early monday so I didnt get to hit it and didnt today cuz it was closed. But sunday I busted my arms in there and didnt want to piss it all away lastnight.
Felt good not being hungover all day today and feeling shitty. Ate alot of food, mostly good stuff, lots of carbs but its all good.
Time for 2008!
LegendKillerJosh
01-02-08, 4:17 pm
I hate to be "Buzz Killington" but at 16 it is illegal for you to drink and it's illegal for everyone to smoke pot, so I'm not sure why this isn't in the "bullshit" yet.
justinbrown
01-02-08, 4:22 pm
I hate to be "Buzz Killington" but at 16 it is illegal for you to drink and it's illegal for everyone to smoke pot, so I'm not sure why this isn't in the "bullshit" yet.
i see where your coming from...but im no angel :)
and about the pot thing....in british columbia...its PRACTICALLY legal...technically it is illegal...but 90% of the cops in here will just take it away and tell you to be on your way....then finish the joint up themselves lmfao
as for it being in the bullshit section...i kinda thought itd end up in there...but it seems to be a valid issue with a fair few of us on here...drinking every day on the other hand is not...were ALL more healthy than that...but i think alot of us still had a little voice in the back of our heads saying "you giv'er 24/7/365...you can take one night off from being an animal"
know what i mean?
LegendKillerJosh
01-02-08, 4:30 pm
i see where your coming from...but im no angel :)
and about the pot thing....in british columbia...its PRACTICALLY legal...technically it is illegal...but 90% of the cops in here will just take it away and tell you to be on your way....then finish the joint up themselves lmfao
as for it being in the bullshit section...i kinda thought itd end up in there...but it seems to be a valid issue with a fair few of us on here...drinking every day on the other hand is not...were ALL more healthy than that...but i think alot of us still had a little voice in the back of our heads saying "you giv'er 24/7/365...you can take one night off from being an animal"
know what i mean?
I know what you mean, but it seems to me you are asking a question with an obvious answer. If you can avoid drinking then do it. I'm sure you know the negative side effects drinking has on your body especially on your workouts, so why even ask, everyone is going to say Just Say No.
krazyassmexican
01-02-08, 4:31 pm
new year's day is over
and the question was answered
nos let's close it and move on
this shit, stays off the fuckin ForVm, it should be obvious if your going to end up in a brawl or your just going to be wasted and cause a hassle, then dont drink, or for goodness sake have one to celebrate the year. POT is not good for bodybuilding at all, and if you research this you will figure out why, you don't need to stay at home but you have to be assertive to your friends and yourself about what you want from yourself. In my final school year, yeah i hit the bottle, and then trained for over an hour hung over but you know what, i cleaned myself up and i feel 100x better.