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darkside64
02-02-07, 1:38 pm
today the alarm rung at 3:40 A.M it was supposed to be a leg day. Usually I do not have a big problem getting up and going to the gym. However today I just had "one of those days" instead of having a bullshit workout I skipped it, and will train legs tomorrow. Keep a brother accountable is my attitude wrong or what should I have done
today the alarm rung at 3:40 A.M it was supposed to be a leg day. Usually I do not have a big problem getting up and going to the gym. However today I just had "one of those days" instead of having a bullshit workout I skipped it, and will train legs tomorrow. Keep a brother accountable is my attitude wrong or what should I have done
You are in such trouble mister! Just wait for the responses to this one! I will back you up here just once...you probably needed the rest...listen to your body. There, see...all is better now. ;)
the_menace
02-02-07, 2:08 pm
today the alarm rung at 3:40 A.M it was supposed to be a leg day. Usually I do not have a big problem getting up and going to the gym. However today I just had "one of those days" instead of having a bullshit workout I skipped it, and will train legs tomorrow. Keep a brother accountable is my attitude wrong or what should I have done
You're not lazy but it's a habit you shouldn't be accustomed to since you'll find an excuse one after another once you have failed yourself too many times. I'd rather repent to your own self and not do this again since your body is your own temple.
doomsdaylover
02-02-07, 2:11 pm
today the alarm rung at 3:40 A.M it was supposed to be a leg day. Usually I do not have a big problem getting up and going to the gym. However today I just had "one of those days" instead of having a bullshit workout I skipped it, and will train legs tomorrow. Keep a brother accountable is my attitude wrong or what should I have done
Out of curiosity, why so early?
Jaymafin
02-02-07, 2:21 pm
no such thing as a bullshit workout, it is what you make it. Suck it up, imagine if the difference between placing first or second was that morning you decided to sleep in.
RedIron 392
02-02-07, 2:28 pm
"One of those days" can lead to"Two of those days" until every day is"One of those days". If it isn't a matter of needing a rest period, then get your lazy ass to the gym.
Later, got to get my lazy ass to the gym.
Wasteland
02-02-07, 2:33 pm
Check out Freak's "Making A Mark":
http://forum.animalpak.com/showthread.php?t=197&page=2
darkside64
02-02-07, 2:37 pm
I more than anyone hate waking up early. My best workouts are in the P.M. however I'm in school with no car right now. The only time I can train is when my roomate is not using his car which is early in the morning.
Out of curiosity, why so early?
doomsdaylover
02-02-07, 2:42 pm
I more than anyone hate waking up early. My best workouts are in the P.M. however I'm in school with no car right now. The only time I can train is when my roomate is not using his car which is early in the morning.
That's rough, darkside. I only hope you are getting enough sleep. When I was in school and had no car, I always rode my bike to the gym. It was like 20 degrees out but invigorating. And what about your school gym... I'm guessing it sucks?
karmazon
02-02-07, 3:23 pm
I fucking hate waking up early, right now I am so fucking tired. But I have to to wake up at around 8:30AM to get all my meals in.
But remember, man is an animal. If dog feels tired he will sleep until he is not tired. If you feel tired working out that early/late you should simply work out later during the day when you got more rest. After all, rest is just as important as diet and lifting weights.
Sometimes you have to listen to your body. Better to miss the workout then have a half ass one! I miss early morning workouts!
darkside64
02-02-07, 4:51 pm
thats what my motive was today. I could not bare the thought of going to the gym to have a shitty leg workout.
Sometimes you have to listen to your body. Better to miss the workout then have a half ass one! I miss early morning workouts!
Big Flanch
02-02-07, 5:45 pm
hey man, i know how hard it is to get up early and work out..its a lot easier to just hit snooze
but somethin that helps me is the "What's Your excuse?" thing i found here on animalpak.com..not sure where, so ill just paste it in here...i printed it out and have it right above my bed so as soon as i wake up i read it and get up.
What's your excuse?
Low testosterone.
The rain.
Low free serum testosterone.
A flat tire.
No energy.
Dirty Clothes.
Fatigue.
Your girl.
Weakness.
Your girl.
Plateau.
Misplaced headphones.
Lack of gains.
Partying.
Brother, what's it gonna be? Is your life a series of excuses or are you gonna make a difference? Train hard, balls out. Like like the Animal you are. Make some noise.
Darkside good job calling yourself out and being accountable for this shit. remember that some don't get the opportunity to workout as much as they want because of all sorts of shit. Do Work Brother!
I think that you like many of us hit that point for your body to say argghhh. Meaning it wanted more rest it felt like growing a littel more and you probably did a good thing after 8 weeks you should rest a week. Make it up though you used up your rest day bro suck it up and go to the gym the next day.
never_2_big
02-03-07, 7:06 am
brother, i skip lectures just to make sure i can hit the gym, i can catch up on the school work but missing a leg day is a no no, you never get it back. suck it up, breathe deep and strap yourself in cause youre in for the long haul and u know it...
I know what it is like to give up a workout! It f****** sucks!!! Being a dad of 3 boys and working 6 days a week I'd rather miss a workout then have a shitty one where everyone pays the price. At least I know the next workout I will be attacking it with a vengeance!!!
LurkingBeast
02-03-07, 3:37 pm
I think that you like many of us hit that point for your body to say argghhh. Meaning it wanted more rest it felt like growing a littel more and you probably did a good thing after 8 weeks you should rest a week. Make it up though you used up your rest day bro suck it up and go to the gym the next day.
true bro. I am always fighting a battle of being tired, but when I am honest about it, I dont' get but 6 1/2 hrs a night, and I'm someone who needs up to 9. Make up for it, you used your "sick day". Now fix it by getting to bed earlier so tomorrow you can kick that iron's ass!
I more than anyone hate waking up early. My best workouts are in the P.M. however I'm in school with no car right now. The only time I can train is when my roomate is not using his car which is early in the morning.
I hate waking up early..I hate it so bad. I will tell you this; I go to bed at night just anticipating waking up the next day to eat my breakfast. Come morning, my alarm does not have to go off. My body knows to get up because its time to eat. I eat the same times everyday, even when I don't diet. As much as I hate waking up, I hate the thought of waiting to eat even more.
So, I get up...get ready and go eat. You can't talk to me either until after I am done with my breakfast. This a rule in my house. Do not talk to me until I have eaten! This is the only reason why I force myself out of bed. I am such a pig! By this time, I am amped to train.
Sometimes you have to listen to your body. Better to miss the workout then have a half ass one! I miss early morning workouts!
i sometimes feel this way, if i am doing a workout and mess up some sets or lose my pump i get so fuckin aggravated and throw the weights down and start fuckin swearin and my whole day is ruined. i rather not do a workout and let my body rest...then do a realy lousy one and feel like i wasted my time...i hate fuckin wasting time.
I hate waking up early..I hate it so bad. I will tell you this; I go to bed at night just anticipating waking up the next day to eat my breakfast. Come morning, my alarm does not have to go off. My body knows to get up because its time to eat. I eat the same times everyday, even when I don't diet. As much as I hate waking up, I hate the thought of waiting to eat even more.
So, I get up...get ready and go eat. You can't talk to me either until after I am done with my breakfast. This a rule in my house. Do not talk to me until I have eaten! This is the only reason why I force myself out of bed. I am such a pig! By this time, I am amped to train.
yap same with me, im always up at 7:30 8:00 and hungry at the same times, reall annoying when you stay up late with your friends and only get three hours of sleep
Testpolska
02-03-07, 10:26 pm
Thats bullshit man. If 340 in the morning is the only time you can train. Come hell or high water you better be in that gym.
Thats what being an animal is. Not feeling like eating your chicken plain but doing it anyway. Not wanting that last can of tuna, but you choke it down because you hold yourself on another level. Keep this shit up you'll be just another guy in the gym.
Next time you fall short of a goal. Look at yourself in the mirror and remember days like the one you described here.
Pokoritel
02-04-07, 12:20 am
You skipped a workout wow. The thing is unless u were in great pain or havent recovered from your last workout then its ok i guess, but other then that u should of gone.
I always find, that when I don't want to go to the gym, I talk myself into going for 15 minutes. I promise myself that If I'm still not into it after 15 minutes, I'll call it off and go home. Every time, once I get there and break a sweat, I'm good to go and get serious about it. If you can make it for the first 15, you'll stay for the rest. Try it...seems to work.
benmatthews90
02-04-07, 11:18 am
you would have got up if you realy wanted to win
jeff00z28
02-04-07, 4:53 pm
i just go when i feel like as long as its 5 days a week and hit everything hard once. i pick when im the least tired that way i can keep the rest of my life balanced. screw a scheduled workout
darkside64
02-04-07, 10:05 pm
thanks bro. I lost sight at one time what an Animal is all about. I thought I was the shit cuz I was 18 and weighed 250 with 9% bodyfat. Truth is exactly what you said I gotta force my ass. Thanks for keeping my puss ass accountable
Thats bullshit man. If 340 in the morning is the only time you can train. Come hell or high water you better be in that gym.
Thats what being an animal is. Not feeling like eating your chicken plain but doing it anyway. Not wanting that last can of tuna, but you choke it down because you hold yourself on another level. Keep this shit up you'll be just another guy in the gym.
Next time you fall short of a goal. Look at yourself in the mirror and remember days like the one you described here.
darkside64
02-04-07, 10:09 pm
Thanx to you too brother. When someone gives me a compliment I smile and forget it. On the other hand if someone gives me a criticism that is when I'm all ears. The fact is I want to win, and I will win. It is comments like yours that make my ass jump out of bed in the morning and set personal records in the gym. Thank you again.
you would have got up if you realy wanted to win
darkside64
02-04-07, 10:29 pm
Exactly one year ago I weighed 250 and had 9% bodyfat. I was benching 300 for reps. Squatted 405 ass to floor. And deadlifted 450 for reps. I will admit I was on about a gram of juice. Back then I lost sight of the true meaning of animal and because another cocky statistic. Over the months I finally stopped using, and stopped working out altogether to find a "greater" purpose in my life. Then I found out that my "greater" purpose is bodybuilding. Today I weigh about 220 with 8.5% bodyfat. I pretty much lift exactly half as much as I used to. Dumbells I once used for heavy curls(80's) I now use for exercises like shrugs. Needles to say all this shit really fucks with your ego. It is hard for me to get motivated in the gym cuz I'm like fuck I'm a damn pussy. My diet today is a thing of beauty. I eat 16 egg whites a day and 2lbs of meat. However my workouts and overall attitude to the gym is not where it needs to be. How do I change my mindset so that I can be a true warrior and animal. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
karmazon
02-04-07, 10:33 pm
Just remember that it's not about how good you are, it's about how bad you want it.
BigTig1165
02-04-07, 10:51 pm
I think Bodybuilding falls in place in the priority list when other things are in priority....I'm not nearly a perfect person (not nearly by far!), but it's when my God, wife, kids and other people are put first that I really get motivated to train hard....best of luck! Chris
Arbalest
02-04-07, 11:18 pm
I'm not gonna sugarcoat it... What you said makes you a Never Was... not a 'has been.'
Now get your ass in the gym and quit making excuses... either you want it, or you don't.
hope you make the right decision.
-trev
RedIron 392
02-04-07, 11:33 pm
You either have the desire,or you don't. If you do have the desire then don't look back,look forward. Set short term goals,keep a log and beat your weight or reps every workout and realise it is a long haul.
Later
I'm not gonna sugarcoat it... What you said makes you a Never Was... not a 'has been.'
Now get your ass in the gym and quit making excuses... either you want it, or you don't.
hope you make the right decision.
-trev
Nah, man. It doesn't make you a "never was". The thing about this life is that everyone has different motivators, and the reason Joe goes to the gym isn't the same reason Bill goes to the gym. Maybe your first motivation was dogshit, and that's why it fell through. You need to do some personal reflection and take a look in the mirror, and figure out WHY you WANT to go to the weight room, who you are, and ultimatley who you want to be. I got the desire, determination, and goals of my deceased best friend (Marine) on my shoulders, and I carry him with me every day I am on this earth. When I think about giving up, he is there to remind me to stay my course. You gotta find that spark inside you again, and turn it into a raging wildfire, prepared to burn down obstacles and challenges in your path. You'll be back, and when you return, you'll be better than you ever were. Greatness is not a number on the side of the dumbells you lift...greatness lies within you, and the path you take to get there.
Hollywood
02-04-07, 11:42 pm
Yo man, theres definitely ways to get where you once were naturally. You know what it takes to train hard and get where you want to be, you've been down that road before. You diet in on track, so you've already won half the battle. The other half is won inside your head, you gotta know that you have what it takes to get your weight and numbers back up. 110% balls to the wall.
I don't you're a "has been" and certainly not a "never was". Turn yourself into a "will be"
darkside64
02-05-07, 5:25 am
thanks man. Its 4:22 A.M. and I'm eating my preworkout meal. Then it's time to overcome
I'm not gonna sugarcoat it... What you said makes you a Never Was... not a 'has been.'
Now get your ass in the gym and quit making excuses... either you want it, or you don't.
hope you make the right decision.
-trev
Bro, you have wandered away from the path, but you've come back knowing where you belong, so that is a good thing. We are human, and we all make mistakes, but learning about our mistakes is what it's all about.
So, just take some time out and just look inside yourself for the hunger, the desire. Wake the animal up, and stick through those hard times, the form will come back.
And yeah, of course. Keep watching the forum, the stuff on here is highly inspiring, and is sure to turbocharge your engine.
Nawaaz
Alivewhenimdead
02-05-07, 9:24 am
It's never about the past, only the future that counts. Train like an animal and unleash your fury in the gym.
Hollow1
02-05-07, 10:27 am
Now your on a mission to regain where you were! What I was lefting before I took some time off and what I am lifting now feels like worlds apart. I know I will get back to those numbers but it takes time and desire! Time to dig down deep and release the animal!
Arbalest
02-05-07, 12:46 pm
thanks man. Its 4:22 A.M. and I'm eating my preworkout meal. Then it's time to overcome
No prob man! Good to see you getting after it.
Just so everyone knows.. when i said "Never Was," i meant it in a different way you probably think.. i meant it more like in a spiritual way.. as he wasn't the same person he is now, his reason for lifting, his purpose wasn't what it is now..
he's a new person, so he never was. =)
Start a log bro!
IronLeague
02-05-07, 7:03 pm
Welcome back, start a fire under your ass and get the fuck to work.
Respect,
IronLeague
JUGGERNAUT
02-05-07, 7:10 pm
Just sounds like you have a lot to fight for and it's how much fight you have in you that will bring you where you want to be. Just act like you were spoiled before and need to start a fresh new life.
Bro, I was in the same spot you are in now. They guys here helped kick me in the ass so I got up and walked into the game feeling renewed and alive. I never juiced but felt really close to wanting it. Then 276 12% now 290 30%. Sick isnt it. You will find the path that fits and you will succeed. I got my game back so will you.
Keep hitting the iron and it will repay you for your efforts.
I've been there with injuries that had forced me not to lift - I lost all my hardwon strength gains. Going back when you've lost your strength - and it was important to you - is tough. But you have to get back up on the horse and ride. It's not about what you lifted last year - It's about lifting today. Forget about the poundages you used to lift and start fresh. Don't look back. You benched XXX today? Bench XXX+10 tomorrow. That's your goal - don't sully it by constantly looking in the rearview mirrow - you'll drive yourself into a tree.
I just feel yo uhave to start somewhere bro. When I was in high school college my weight was like 170lb bro I was lifting a little more than I am lifting now and I am 220 and I was a monster I played strong safety I blew out my knee and here I am now I felt like I was starting all over bro I started out at 90lbs bro 90 lbs 10lbs curls laugh I AM. Well I am benching four times that now and I am curling seven times that now start over bro the progress will get you a buzz like never before let the monster out slowly. Hope that helps bro.
darkside64
02-06-07, 8:46 pm
I have traveled so far to find so little Meaning in tragedy or tragedy In the search for meaning. Dark clouds have lead me here; Confined freedom Guides us to security; What if everything I have been taught is a lie, And all of my teachers
Have been wrong this whole time. Compelling us to fight
The battles they would not They have already won
And we have already lost. If we do not learn from their mistakes We have already lost If we do not learn to change
darkside64
02-07-07, 4:13 pm
I find it so amazing how many different people have embraced this sport. More than that have learned what animal is all about. Lawyers, doctors, school teachers, students, businessman. Our identity is no found in what we do for a living it is found in the gym. It is reaching down deep to get a another gear. We understand what it means to have 364lbs on our back with no safety rack and squatting that shit to the floor. It is this unquenchable thirst to achieve something greater, to feel something that is real. It just amazes me that although we are all different, we as animals share this passion with our blood.
darkside64
02-08-07, 5:28 am
Im sitting here and I realize once again that I'm the only person in my house that is awake. I realize my roomates are snoozing about what they could be or should be, I'm eating my oatmeal and getting my mind ready for shoulders. There are days when I wonder why I do this shit. What is the fucking point. In 70 years who cares how big I was. Of course it is always easy to start something and not finish it. So as I sit here in the dark sipping my bitter coffee I know that soon I will be back in a place called madness. Where pain and beauty come together.
darkside64
02-08-07, 3:44 pm
Being a winner in my opinion does not mean holding a trophy that has a one on it. There are people that have talent that win shows, but lack the balls to be legends. Today I worked shoulders. For the first time I saw striations and veins. As a lanky 6'4 165 freshman this is the shit that I always dreamed about. Today I'm 19 weigh 220 in single digit b/f. It is days like today that remind me why I do what I do. It is days like today when hot girls are checking me out in the mirror that I push even more. Fellow Animals I'm one testimony of many that if you bust your balls for something hard enoug and long enough eventually you will get that taste of success. Tomorrow is leg day stay tuned.
keep up the good work man.
Pokoritel
02-08-07, 9:33 pm
Well said brother. Looks like your damn serious. Strenght and Honor
darkside64
02-09-07, 8:10 am
It's 7:00am right now. Today I trained legs. Last week I skipped legs cuz I was "tired" after getting straightened out by my brothers here at animalpak I returned today to kick ass. The routine went like this
14 min bike
4 sets of leg extensions
5 sets of squats
3 sets of lunges
3 sets of unileg extenions
then it was on to hamstrings.
I did standing leg curls first a 25lb barbell then I added 10's for a total of 55lbs per leg. Then I did a triple drop set. Brothers I fell of that machine like a warrior that just got a sword through his chest. I knew I was not done though. It was 2 more sets to failure with seated leg curls. As usual I had judgmental eyes all over my back. What is it about training legs that fucks with someones mind. There is never a light leg day. There is never a leg day that goes by where my mouth gets watery and I feel like I'm going to spill my guts on the floor. Determination and execution. Fellow brothes and warriors it is leg days like today that keep my ass humble and hungry, because I know that I'm a hungry animal at the bottom of the food chain looking up. It will always be this way. Even if I'am "the best" someday. I realize that nothing that is worth doing comes easy; thank you brothers for the inspiration
darkside64
02-11-07, 7:05 pm
I sit here and I realize how far I have come in this sport. I realize that I have a long way to go. To me it is natural to want to be the best. I cannot stand the thought of another person being better than me at something. I look at one of my roomates. 27 years of age, making 10bucks an hour. Has never gone to second base with a girl. Fat and unattractive. I just dont understand it. I see this shit going on, and nothing is being done to change the situation. In the envirement I live in, it is so hard not to let my ass slide, and become garbage. That is why isolate myself. It really is lonely at the top.
NeverContent
02-12-07, 9:45 pm
great feeling isnt it?
darkside64
02-13-07, 10:03 pm
Trained back today, and noticed a lot of great improvements. My delts and traps are finally starting to tie into my upper back.
I gained a couple pounds due to the extra calories. Right now I weigh 223.
I also gained a little strength on a couple lifts.
Bent row 205lbs for 10 reps
shrugs: 120lbs dumbells 8 reps
My physique is finally starting to look aesthetic and symetrical which is exactly what I want. To be as big as possable without sacrificing the "true" bodybuilding look.
darkside64
02-15-07, 4:41 pm
Shoulders and bi's was on the menu today. I dont know what the hell happened but I gained like 5lbs overnight. I guess cuz I ate like 3lbs of potatoes. Fuck there goes my diet. Oh well as long as I'm filling out.
Current stats:
weight: 227
Shoulder press 155lbs-7reps
dumbell press 70's-6reps
dumbell curls 50's- 6reps
So far my improvements are incredable. I finally got used to working out in the morning, and as soon as mudvayne "dig" plays its game over for the weights.
darkside64
02-15-07, 6:16 pm
Living in a "feel good" society can really fuck with the guy that is achieving something greater. I have realized that sacrifice and discipline must be set in order in order to accomplish anything. I dont feel like eating this. I dont feel like training today. I feel sad. I feel down. I feel I feel I feel. Im getting so sick of it. I admit that I also have been victim to this bullshit, however how does one find the balance of emotions. Shit we are human, but that does not mean that we have to cry about how bad we feel everytime we throw up after a leg workout. THoughts?
BeastofBurden
02-15-07, 6:24 pm
I believe Machine once talked about MANIC ENTHUSIASM.. i think that is the mindset you would want if you are feeling brought down by all that this lifestyle has to bring. Remember, this sport not only makes your will strong as steel but it sharpens your mind as well and I believe once you get past these mental road blocks you will rise out of it stronger and with more will power.
However, your situation happens to me in rollercoaster waves. Usually in sync with my gains and plateaus.
JUGGERNAUT
02-15-07, 6:24 pm
Less Thinking More Lifting- Making sure your goal has a real plan behind it; so you don't run into time issues organizing it works to avoid thinking like this. Honestly and I do hear this all the time; if you really have a path you don't have time to even think about the negatives. You are on a course and that course should never be deviated from unless you have a major emergency.
darkside64
02-15-07, 6:30 pm
I was not speaking about myself. This is just the shit that I see going on around me. I have goals and I have a set path. Shit my days are brighter for than most people cuz I get to do what I love. Im just so drawn into this sport that I literally do not give a flying fuck about anything else. Relationships, friends, money whatever. All I care about is beating the shit out of myself, and turing myself into a champion.
likwit06
02-15-07, 6:39 pm
I was not speaking about myself. This is just the shit that I see going on around me. I have goals and I have a set path. Shit my days are brighter for than most people cuz I get to do what I love. Im just so drawn into this sport that I literally do not give a flying fuck about anything else. Relationships, friends, money whatever. All I care about is beating the shit out of myself, and turing myself into a champion.
well what can i say darkside, right now i have the same mindset as you, people just dont understand the love of this game. I even feel bad not working out on my rest days. i feel that i belong there. most of the people that i communicate do not comprehend the time effort dedication discipline that is needed to continue on this hard course. but fuck that we deal with all the bullshit and we keep pumping for life.
born0withno0soul
02-15-07, 6:47 pm
This sport, this lifestyle, can draw you in very deeply and cause you to forget all else that goes on around you. Thats what you think anyways. Really your pulling deep within yourself and finding your soul i think. Many do it by meditation, we do it by pain, dedication, and resentment. Resentment to failure. I, like yourself, have forgotten the meaning of relationship, money, and all those other petty rituals of the average person. the only relationship i need is myself and my soul, that i find when i am pushing iron and stepping one foot closer to my goals.
darkside64
02-15-07, 9:04 pm
hey bro that was very well said man. I like that. My thoughts and "feelings" are expressed in what I do. Bodybuilding to me is more than lifting weights and eating a shitload of food. It is what is placed as a gift in me. Like the parable with the 5 talents. Im going to multiply that shit and get my reward. I guess it's just a lonely road in the process.
This sport, this lifestyle, can draw you in very deeply and cause you to forget all else that goes on around you. Thats what you think anyways. Really your pulling deep within yourself and finding your soul i think. Many do it by meditation, we do it by pain, dedication, and resentment. Resentment to failure. I, like yourself, have forgotten the meaning of relationship, money, and all those other petty rituals of the average person. the only relationship i need is myself and my soul, that i find when i am pushing iron and stepping one foot closer to my goals.
I dont feel like eating this. I dont feel like training today. I feel sad. I feel down. I feel I feel I feel. Im getting so sick of it. I admit that I also have been victim to this bullshit, however how does one find the balance of emotions.THoughts?
how does one find the balance of emotions...i guess i am lucky enough to have been in our fabulous US Army...Ranger units..we were all taught to turn those fuckers off...i typically have em turned off til they are needed, which is normally in my lifts to turn any anger/rage against the weights.
just gotta learn to sometimes say, Fuck It. and ignore the little shit. "i dont feel like training....eating..whatever" fuck that. train yourself to know that on a daily basis you NEED to do what is necessary. eating, training, and resting are necessary. maybe you dont feel like doing em, but pretty much, not trying to sound like an asshole, suck it up and fuckin do em.
we take this life one rep at a time...one forkfull at a time...and one nap at a time.
always remember that.
Strength and Honor.
darkside64
02-17-07, 1:36 pm
Leg day yesterday and I was a **** hair away from throwing up my guts. Here was the routine
leg extensions 3sets 20reps
front squats 5 sets 4-12reps (max165 for 4 reps)
hack squats superset lunges 3sets 12reps
hamstrings:
stiff deads 3 sets 10-12 reps
standing ham curls 4 sets 20-15 reps
after that 15min of good stretching and then it was time to hit the post workout shake
darkside64
02-20-07, 6:33 pm
So I signed up today to get my bodyfat checked at my gym. Turns out that the girl who is going to do it is the same chick Ive been meaning to ask out. Im not a very social guy at all, and I know that this is not a dating board; however how would I approach something like that.
JUGGERNAUT
02-20-07, 6:36 pm
Ask her to check for a hernia while she is at it?
Ask her to check for a hernia while she is at it?
Haha that may work. Jus let her know that you have noticed her. I think you should be straight forward and ask her if she would like to go out sometime. Try and start some "small talk" first tho.
darkside64
02-20-07, 6:53 pm
today I worked back. Great fucking pump. My weight and strength is starting to go through the roof. It almost feels like "ole" times.
barbell rows 235lbs- 10 reos
barbell shrugs 315lbs- 8reps
singe dumbell rows 110lb- 7reps
My weight just ballooned. I stepped on the scale and boom 232lbs. I did not know what to think. I'm going to take a bodyfat test on thursday and if that motherfucker reads andything but single digits I'm going to do two a days.
how does one find the balance of emotions...i guess i am lucky enough to have been in our fabulous US Army...Ranger units..we were all taught to turn those fuckers off...i typically have em turned off til they are needed, which is normally in my lifts to turn any anger/rage against the weights.
just gotta learn to sometimes say, Fuck It. and ignore the little shit. "i dont feel like training....eating..whatever" fuck that. train yourself to know that on a daily basis you NEED to do what is necessary. eating, training, and resting are necessary. maybe you dont feel like doing em, but pretty much, not trying to sound like an asshole, suck it up and fuckin do em.
we take this life one rep at a time...one forkfull at a time...and one nap at a time.
always remember that.
Strength and Honor.
amen to that brother. emotions can fuck you up...but sometimes time will call to turn that shit right off...and get down to business. ive kind of had problems with emotions since leaving for college.....mainly girl problems cuz the girl is at home and im not sure where this is taking us...but for me when i feel down, i transfer whatever emotion i have to anger and release 110% of that on the weights...and i realize one thing- 'the good thing about pain is it lets you know you're still alive'
Grim Tavis
02-20-07, 7:05 pm
I am certainly in the camp that has problems lifting when emotions come calling.
I think it probably has more to do with not eating right and having my system "crash" on me, but there really are those days where my whole being is screaming to get the hell out of the gym.
I stay, but it sure is a fight and, naturally, not a great workout.
Then, there are days where I am so energized and strong I am scary!
Emotions and mood swings suck.
Just one more thing to work on, I guess.
Enforcer25
02-20-07, 7:22 pm
I agree with Bam, just start with the small talk and see how she responds, you should have a pretty good idea of if she likes you or not, then ask her to get a bite to eat with you. Check for a hernia, to funny Juggernaut. Good luck Bro.
born0withno0soul
02-21-07, 2:29 am
I am certainly in the camp that has problems lifting when emotions come calling.
I think it probably has more to do with not eating right and having my system "crash" on me, but there really are those days where my whole being is screaming to get the hell out of the gym.
I stay, but it sure is a fight and, naturally, not a great workout.
Then, there are days where I am so energized and strong I am scary!
Emotions and mood swings suck.
Just one more thing to work on, I guess.
How long have you been lifting? I know its a tough thing getting through your workout daily, but i have been through a plateau and i am making such great gains right now nothing can keep me out of the gym. I have got my body fat down to a level where i can gain muscle mass and still see a damn good pump. maybe you should work on that as well. if you can learn to get an awesome pump everytime, nothing will put your mind down.
Love is important destresser keeps you stress free bro. Very anabolic ask her the most important question and who cares if she is dating someone ask her what she likes to do when she leaves work. Bro women are not hard to grab do not be afraid of rejection do not give up make her smile good luck.
Atest4Echo
02-21-07, 5:40 am
I don't know if any of you have read this book, . . . a great read....
basically it talks about different obstacles that you will meet in your life... as they are disguised as different people...
It's some what biblically based... but you can interpret it anyway it fits you...
One of the things that Bruce Wilkinson points out is that dreams are not an added extra to life. They are not a bonus for people who need an extra challenge. They are not the icing; they are not the cake; they are the meat and potatoes. They are not incidental to life any more than the basket is incidental to basketball. There are other parts of the game, to be sure: dribbling, ball handling, passing, team-play, off court stuff like weight training and watching films. But, there is a reason they call the basket the goal. When we score we call it a goal. It is the goal. It is the point. It is the object to the exercise.
You must get out of your comfort zone. The BIG DREAM is always outside of your comfort zone.
You must overcome the Border bullies--real life people (normally friends and family members) who discourage you from following your BIG DREAM. It is helpful to find a Border Buster who can help you break out of Familiar toward the BIG DREAM.
Next comes wasteland.... you will feel alone... and that's the price you have to pay
Giants. Some of the giants include Moneyless, Corruption, Rejection, Failure. In order to realize your BIG DREAM, you must conquer each one of these.
BIG DREAM. Like any good story, this one has a surprising twist at the end. The BIG DREAM is not the end; it is only the beginning.........
so next time you come to an obstacle... or any type of mental block....
just think..... no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself and achieving your dream.
I apologize for rambling on. . . and hope this helps.
darkside64
02-21-07, 9:20 am
are you talking about the second best selling book in the world "the pilgrims progress"
rcrott1
02-21-07, 11:33 am
the best pickup line that has worked for me.."Hi..how are ya, my name is Rob."
introduce yourself and just start talking to her. find out what she is interested in, if she likes coffee,....take her to a coffee joint.
Atest4Echo
02-21-07, 2:09 pm
are you talking about the second best selling book in the world "the pilgrims progress"
No, the actual book is called "Dreamgiver" by Bruce Wilkinson
RowdyRobby
02-21-07, 2:31 pm
are you talking about the second best selling book in the world "the pilgrims progress"
Great Book!
I think of the emotional Craze that has been going on is like pendulam swing. What I mean is, If you hang around men who are older they are like the complete oppisite of younger men, when it comes to talking/dealing with emotions,. Back then it was not well thought of/manly, for a man to express himself. Now it seems the other way around, like if you dont then your not sensitive or caring. I think it has Men Confused, We need to find the middle road, not saying anything and stuffing them is just as bad as over communication IMO. Its definatly an interesting subject!
Big Rich
02-21-07, 2:44 pm
Ask her to check for a hernia while she is at it?
LOL
Might as well kill 2 birds with one stone!
OldeIron
02-21-07, 5:53 pm
Ya, find some common ground to start convo, and then jus keep things goin and keep the topic on her. If things go well, just ask her out. DONT GET STRESS, the worst thing that happens is you reject yourself first.
JUGGERNAUT
02-21-07, 6:47 pm
LOL
Might as well kill 2 birds with one stone!
Birds and stones....now I need to give us both infractions......
For the thread starter.. How many times have we kicked ourselves for not saying or doing something we should have? Even if you don't get a good response right away make the effort now and better it the next time and the next. If you do it right the first time she will know you like her and not just want to GIHP.....
darkside64
02-21-07, 6:53 pm
true and if that doesnt work the hernia thing is always there on the backburner.
lofl
LuvsThePain
02-21-07, 6:56 pm
Just slap her ass and see how she responds. LOL just kiddin! I don't know man, I would just ask if she was single and then get straight to the point. No bs.
By the way, a relationship with someone that works at a gym is plus plus brother.
speedster00
02-22-07, 11:43 am
Train yourselfe to keep emotion out of it. Get your life in order and on track. Find a good woman and it will all fall into place.
thats right...feel this....feel the bar...the wet straps and belt from the night before....smell the animal shirt that busted with the bi's that morning for the first of 2 workouts....feel the joy of walking out of the gym knowing you killed it one more time....feel the pain...feel the animal inside that craves the next day..........we all get that feeling that we want to bypass the gym....My big challenge is my 3 year old that wants me to come home and play....I get my training in and shoot home...sometimes I do skip the gym and head home to him...but I need my time....its my turn...its my pain
Testpolska
02-22-07, 8:31 pm
Feelings are a blessing...Sure as annoying as they can be. They are useful. Now somethings you have to accept. Dumping your last meal into the trash can after legs, Accept it. You don't have to like it. But it does and WILL happen.
Be fucking thankful that you CAN feel after a leg workout. Cry about it? I don't know, if ya want to I guess. But be fucking thankful that you CAN cry about it. You got one life. You gotta FEEL everything.
Your best moment, where you feel like god himself couldn't take you off your horse.
Your worst moment, Where someone close to you dies, your girlfriend dumps you, Everything is falling apart.
Embrace them all. Be thankful your here to feel...
emotions for me fuel my training! i have an anger problem so lifting is a therapy for me! iam still angry but i have a better grip on it now! dont let your emotions destroy your training keep going no matter how shitty you feel!
darkside64
02-24-07, 9:38 pm
I fucking hate eating chicken, so I went out and bought 20lbs of it yesterday. Yum that shit will last me about 20days. Not too bad if you dont count all the tuna, ground beef and steak.
This coming up week is going to be great. I can feel it. My leg workout friday almost felt like old times. 275 for 4 reps ass to the motherfucking floor. I love the looks that I get when I pause in the hole for two second and then explode through the roof. I think I'm the only person in my gym that I have seen squat. Monday is chest and tris day
My goal is to get 90's on incline for six reps.
darkside64
03-26-07, 7:04 pm
I just read a post by K1usa and it motivated me to write this post. I live in a house with 3 other guys in school. All of them either fat or skinny and fat. In the beginning I got the usuall bullshit about all the food I eat and supplements and so on. However in the last 2 months 2 of my roomates have joined the gym I work out at. The have come up to me for advice for nutrition and training. One of my fat roomates has lost 18 lbs in just a matter of weeks. My other roomate who was kind of skinny has gained over 10 lbs. These guys mocked me in the beginning, but instead of being an asshole I kept the invite of helping them change their bodies. I'm telling you guys this shit makes you feel good.
thats what its all about my friend...this is animal as well
darkside64
07-25-07, 5:22 pm
there was once someone that wrote an article about the haves and have nots. I was always under the belief that Iam a have. That Im a champion, and that Im authentic and real. Turns out that its bullshit. Ive been living in germany now for two months. I have stayed the same body weight and gained fat. Im absolutely not motivated to go to the gym and I drink way too much. It pisses me off. I have cut out the drinking. But I cant seem to get the fire back. My body goes through the motions at the gym, but I know Im wasting my time. My gym is worse than a family YMCA. they have dumbells only going up to 92 lbs. I dont mean to bitch and whine about shit. I just need to get back on track with things. How the fuck is it that I once was so motivated, and now Im bullshit. Brothers I need some serious help.
ok buddyl.....here we go....first...good going on the drinking...stopping was a good move...
the gym...make the best of what you have there or find another that is better equiped
the motivation....its from the heart..its from inside your soul bro....I cant get you to push on in the gym if you are not motivated.....i can stand here and yell like shit at you...Machine can tongue lash your ass for this post....but it wont help...so my offer to you is this....take hold of what you want to do with your body...your life...see where all this shit fits together...find what you want to make of your health...if its swimming, tennis....surfing...fuck...what ever the event is...just enjoy your life...and if its BB...then join the fuck in..grap some iron and fucken just push it and pull it and feel the pain. Thats it bro...I was easy on you....because I care..you are far from home...and you got a great family of animals over here that care..starting with me...the old animal....but not weak......let me know what you do...but you do have friends here bro...
Animal Spirit always
Russ
TufffGuY
07-25-07, 5:44 pm
Good Lord if Machine sees this thread, its gonna be ugly.
http://forum.animalpak.com/showthread.php?t=8787&highlight=motivation
"If you TRULY lack motivation...go take up Basket Weaving"
there was once someone that wrote an article about the haves and have nots. I was always under the belief that Iam a have. That Im a champion, and that Im authentic and real. Turns out that its bullshit. Ive been living in germany now for two months. I have stayed the same body weight and gained fat. Im absolutely not motivated to go to the gym and I drink way too much. It pisses me off. I have cut out the drinking. But I cant seem to get the fire back. My body goes through the motions at the gym, but I know Im wasting my time. My gym is worse than a family YMCA. they have dumbells only going up to 92 lbs. I dont mean to bitch and whine about shit. I just need to get back on track with things. How the fuck is it that I once was so motivated, and now Im bullshit. Brothers I need some serious help.
http://www.animalpak.com/html/articl...n=livin&ID=167
read this......
you want motivation......GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR FUCKING ASS AND FUCKING MOVE. if i have to drag some mother fuckers to your gym just to smoke you....we just may do it.
http://forum.animalpak.com/showthread.php?t=8787&highlight=motivation
"If you TRULY lack motivation...go take up Basket Weaving"
I am glad to see people are still loving that post of mine :)
Fuck, I'm game...LET'S SMOKE 'EM!
here fucker. this is a post i gave about motivation once already...ill throw the other ones up here in a minute.
are you really saying you have no motivation???? what the fuck is wrong with some people on here......???? "i have no motivation, blah blah fucking blah."
if you read any of the other threads on this site and you STILL say you have no motivation, then there is no hope for you....You are completely FUCKED.. you want me to get mad?? you are weak...you are small...your lifts are shit. you have shitty form. get your fucking head out of your ass and get back to the fucking weights.
you dont want me to be mean? tough shit, shouldnt have posted that you are lacking motivation.
if you have no motivation, you may want to think of taking up basketweaving or some shit like that...and leave this life to those of us who can fucking cut it.
NOW, go fucking lift.
here is the other one.
http://forum.animalpak.com/showthread.php?t=8787&highlight=motivation
I'm fairly new here, but I can tell you that the people here have helped motivate me beyond belief. Anything in life that means anything to you never comes easy. You have to make your own way, and everyone here is behind you 100%. Life isn't supposed to be fair, you have to accept change, pain, heartache or being alone. In this, you learn who you are and this defines you as a man. Martin Luther King once said, "The ultimate measure of a man lies not in what he does in times of comfort and prosperity, yet what he does in times of challenge and controversy". You have to keep pushing, the world will always push back but you have to be bigger and stronger than that. Sometimes you'll think about why it is that your here or what the hell your doing but in the roughest of times you will begin to realize that everything can be conquered. He conquers all who conquers himself.
In RE: to smoking your ass in that shitty gym....you gotta use what you got bro....if that means throwing a bb in the corner and doin some t-bar's without assistance from a machine then fucking do it. Quit your bitching and get your head straight dude, fuck, I know a guy who lifts and has ONE g'damn leg.
ONE LEG, and you have both of yours plus your arms, so I don't see why you gotta complain 'bout shit?
You have what you need, now fuckin use it dude.
Damn.
you want motivation fucker, come lift with me....im missing 2 fingers and will smoke you.
here fucker. this is a post i gave about motivation once already...ill throw the other ones up here in a minute.
are you really saying you have no motivation???? what the fuck is wrong with some people on here......???? "i have no motivation, blah blah fucking blah."
if you read any of the other threads on this site and you STILL say you have no motivation, then there is no hope for you....You are completely FUCKED.. you want me to get mad?? you are weak...you are small...your lifts are shit. you have shitty form. get your fucking head out of your ass and get back to the fucking weights.
you dont want me to be mean? tough shit, shouldnt have posted that you are lacking motivation.
if you have no motivation, you may want to think of taking up basketweaving or some shit like that...and leave this life to those of us who can fucking cut it.
NOW, go fucking lift.
True that bro, if you can't take the fuckin heat, get outta my fuckin house cause you don't belong bro....I personally say you grab whatever balls you have hangin there and man up broseph, because what I'm seein right now is a little bitch wantin' his hands held and fuck that shit bro, I aint gonna carry your ass through life, I'm carryin enough weight as it is. ask LD5 what he thinks about that.
Manup motha fucka, man up.
Never believe that the circumstances of your life dictate that you can't become a huge, rampaging, fucking beast.-Machine
Enough said
brandona
07-25-07, 6:13 pm
Darkside you are the last person I expected this shit from. Loose your balls on the flight over? Come on man, you are better than this shit and you fucking know it. Not enough weight? grab a rock, or a fat kid and get to work..Life is passing you by while you are sitting in the fucking corner crying...Rember your dreams and pull your head out of your ass and GET TO FUCKING WORK!!!!!..
-B
Darkside you are the last person I expected this shit from. Loose your balls on the flight over? Come on man, you are better than this shit and you fucking know it. Not enough weight? grab a rock, or a fat kid and get to work..Life is passing you by while you are sitting in the fucking corner crying...Rember your dreams and pull your head out of your ass and GET TO FUCKING WORK!!!!!..
-B
B, this is the side of you i love to see.
darkside...seriously, no motivation? i would have hoped for something better outta you.
This guy lies around getting drunk and gets fat and expects sympathy? He act like he's be stricken with a disease or something. He chose to do what he did. This isn't a fucking misionary gospel church begging people to join and stay. If looking in the mirror at your fatt ass doesn't motivate you, nothing anybody types in this thread will either....
If you are speaking the truth, and you truly have no Motavation. Then my advice to you is walk away. That's right, drop the weights, the carido, the 4:00am wake up time, all that shit. If you are just going to turn into another Curl Jockey, who is taking up space on the machines, and breathing my air, then get the fuck out.
However, brother, if you stop for a minute and go look at the mirror, look to see what kind of man is staring back at you. Shit, no one in this world is perfect, not you, not me, not even people like Machine, G Diesel, and Big Ant. We all have have our Good Days, and our Bad Days. Just go look in the mirror, and I can promise you that if you look at that man in the eye, you will find that spark. That little tiny flame, the beginnings of the Rage. It is your responsibility, to feed that spark, to nurture it, to fan it so that it becomes a bonfire of intensity that consumes everything that comes near it. Then you need to grab that motherfucker by the balls and ride it for everything its worth. I mean don't stop holding on until the fucking wheels come off.
True Motovation comes internally, not externally. If you can't find the drive inside you, then there is always Beauty School. Now Get to Fucking Work.
I going with rcrott1 and the others on this one, either shit or get off the pot. Seems to be a little too much "I need motivation" lately. If you truly want to workout, you will find a way. Motivation comes within!
I going with rcrott1 and the others on this one, either shit or get off the pot. Seems to be a little too much "I need motivation" lately. If you truly want to workout, you will find a way. Motivation comes within!
well said
darkside64
07-26-07, 5:09 pm
thank you for the responses. I especially liked the one about sitting drunk and getting fat. First off I stopped drinking. I have analysed the situation and found this. I need a different envirement. You guys bitch and whine about no being able to use chalk in the gym(I was there). The gyms here you cant do shit. If you look intimidating and dont smile at every fucker you say your membership is gonna get revoked. I cant stress how ridiculous it is here. Im animal at heart. I have had some intense workouts. However when you lock an animal in a cage, it cant reach its potential. Knowing this I have come to the following conclusion. There is a hardcore gym in cologne about 50km where I live(no car). Im going to get a job, get a car, and make that drive everyday, because I know that when Im in an envirement with other bodybuilders, and like minded attitudes it will push me farther. Anyways I knew some guys were going to bash on me. I guess you can see that k1 is wise in his age. I was being very open and honest and trying to get honest opinions. Single mindedness. time to get to work
stumblin54
07-26-07, 5:22 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Udw-mdEQOhw
...before every balls heavy squat, bench, and dead sitting before me. Get it stuck in your head and try not to push it through the roof or pull the whole fuckin' ground up. Get your head straight homey...
Stumblin
click on all of wrath's pictures. if that's not motivation then forget it
darkside64
07-31-07, 3:35 am
Im sorry if there is already a thread on this. I was just thinking about this yesterday. what everyones mindset is when they get in the gym. Is it angry, and I will beat the shit out of the weights. Or is it focused and controlled. Both maybe? What are the thoughts you listen to. For me I usually put on some death metal or black metal(dimmu borgir is fucking sick) I imagine myself to be a viking and that the weights are my enemies(no fucking joke). So what kind of crazy things do you guys think about to overcome the neverending struggle in the gym
dominate77
07-31-07, 4:07 am
i like to be really pissed off when i get in the gym, but that doesn't always happen
i like to think about how much bigger and better i'll be in football from all the size and strength i'll have accumulated by the time the first game starts getting closer
hey if your into death metal, give Dying Fetus a try if you haven't already...so sick
after shock therapy i cant wait to hit the iron.
its like....if im feeling like..eh, i dont wanna do this, im more than willing to attack it.
In Flames
i go in with a very positive focused, but subdued attitude. though at the same time, my whole body and mind knows of what to come and my muscles twitch with anticipation because they know the pain that will be coming. i stay focused, but do not get angry until right before a lift where ill zero in on a thought and make myself angry....when that lift is over, ill go right back into just my focused energy preparing for the next one.
violator
07-31-07, 10:10 am
why say it, when someone else has said it better, to quote;
"this desire, burning, deep inside of me, focus, driven, certain, of the way its going to be,,yeah, im fucking determined!, spit at all reason."
-Mudvayne
spyderman4g63
07-31-07, 10:10 am
In the gym is the only time I am not thinking about anything. My head stays clear. Anger doesn't really do it for me (I catch myself smiling after a PR or a good heavy set). I just take my pump, hit that adrenaline rush, crank the mp3 player and get it done.
billmd1334
07-31-07, 10:13 am
before, during, and after my workouts, I keep my eyes set in on my goals and just go for it.
ChandlerXJ
07-31-07, 10:16 am
Personally I get excited to get to the gym, whatever mood I am in I can apply it to the weights. You know, I like to feel like I am doing the best I can. Some days I won't talk to my lifting buddy, cuz' I'm so pissed or tired, other days I'll make sure we joke about the guys doing arm circles. I like to keep my mood consistent with my training. If I am going to act all mad, chances are I'm going to rush, and there is no way I can effectively throw up 100 pound dumbbells and do a nice controlled set if all I can think about is how mad I am.
Do you guys ever feel like you're too pumped, like your heart is racing so much that you can't really control much else?
HARDWORK1
07-31-07, 10:24 am
When I get home from work ready to go to the gym, my family tries to talk to me and I ignore, this sort of angry state comes over me and intense focus sets in, I dont want to talk to anyone, Im focused on the weights, the task at hand
.....do work
Flash419
07-31-07, 11:15 am
Need to have some music on ... something with some THUMP!
Usually working out my work out before I get there...
Thinking about moving the weights, getting a pump, how light they feel today.
Usually have the start of a pump before I even get there. Since I have usually visuallized every excercise before I'm even there, the work out is ... a dream come true.
Get your mind into the muscle... makes a world of difference.
krazyassmexican
07-31-07, 11:18 am
on leg day i imagine machine rite next to me
waiting for me to quit and ready to smack me on the face
so i put some death metal and bang the weights till i leave walking like if i had a stick up in my ass
In the gym I'm more focussed and control. I don't even look up from walking to one machine to the next. I must overcome the pain that my mind wants me to believe that I have. I must keep my mind 110% on what I am doing because if my mind fails, the body fails, and that is unacceptable. When I work out, it is a way of expressing myself. 37 minutes until leg day.....it's time to overcome.
Medford
07-31-07, 11:46 am
I like to get into a quiet space. all I want to do is feel the muscles burn...the weights are just tools to get the muscles on fire. I try and concentrate on just the muscles that I am working on and make maximum pain in it. It's a wordless, primal state
dominatetheiron
07-31-07, 12:19 pm
good question.
i have a 30 mins drive i go in the morning so i listen to the morning show of my choice and chill sipping water and thinking of what im training that day and how i need to prepare.
As i walk to the locker room i feel insulted by the gerbils who gawk at me as i walk to change i always wear the same sweatshirt home made a hoody thats had to be cut to fit my body covered in band patches from my favorite metal bands.
in the locker room i feel it build that anger and hate. Then i explode on the weights. dont watch me destroy the weights , let me battle my demons, i destroy them with the weight. although im enraged i stay focused on technique and muscle development.
barischeg
07-31-07, 12:52 pm
for all the shit i ve been through for these last couple years i took it out on the iron.. if it wasnt there i probly be dead or in prison.....
Clear head. I always seem to take a minute out, get my shit straight. I crank the mp3, get dialed in and try to keep to myself. Slef motivation baby.
The_Dude
07-31-07, 1:49 pm
I focus on form and stance and see myself doing the excercise with correct form. If it's heavy weight, I picture my kids and family cheering me on. If it's PR's or 1RM's, I turn my mp3 player on full blast, bang my head to the beat and go with the flow.
benmatthews90
07-31-07, 2:19 pm
i jsut imagine myself fucking destroying everything, and also dimmu, oh dear *shakes head* you want slayer, slayer every time, an listen to testament, it will make you balls ache its so manly ;)
Pokoritel
07-31-07, 2:50 pm
I always come in controlled and focused and I always remain that way in the outside. But once I grab the barbell or dumbbell I give it all I got.
I used to listen to music whenever I trained, now I cant stand it. I cant connect with the iron if I am being distracted by other things. I feel when I lift, I have to give it all my attention and focus. I dont bullshit, I dont try to stand there and look pretty, I just give all my attention to the lift.
I consider these outside thoughts and sounds a distraction that will somehow affect my performance, and maybe not in a positive way. I rather feel the racing of my heart, hear myself breathe, notice the look in my eyes as I stare back at myself in the mirror, see the changes in my body, the sweat through my clothes, feel the callouses on my hands, even the pain in my back...these are the things that get my blood racing and my mind focused on the game, the game I play against myself.
DreamZero
07-31-07, 5:13 pm
oatmeal, shock therapy, rob zombie, expiate the weakness. sleep, repeat.
Little Houghton
07-31-07, 5:13 pm
i try not to be mad when im in the gym. when im just mad about things from school, my life, whatever, that does nothing but distract me. i always do best when theres someone there beating me, or doing good for their situation, i see that as great motivation. also, when i have a bad rep or a rep that is way harder than it should be, that gets me a good kind of pissed off and i tend to tear it up for the next couple of reps. but overall i like goin in the gym, seein the same people bustin their asses everyday, and just gettin down to work
brandona
07-31-07, 6:18 pm
My anger comes in burst that shake the walls and scares the neighbors..Not an attitude that I can carry in to the gym, If I did I would probley kill myself, or in the least fuck myself up...I go in with an my same even attitude, ready for anything, crank the pink ipod and let it flow...It's work, just get it done and go home.....
-B
bigrhino
07-31-07, 6:27 pm
i used to get mad, but not anymore. i don't know, maybe not much gets me upset anymore.
but i have started to have to bring my ipod to the gym to block out everyone's conversations and the music they play know. i don't even recognize the music is playing even more, i am so focused.
but, when i need some energy, i take the headphones off and listen to everyone elses boring conversations and realize what time they are wasting.
Not to sound like a meathead but..
My mind is blank. It's the ONLY time of day I don't have to worry about shit. The most you will ever hear if your in my head at the gym is...1.....2....etc...
I think enough about everything all day. The gym is MY time.
darkside64
08-01-07, 3:54 am
i jsut imagine myself fucking destroying everything, and also dimmu, oh dear *shakes head* you want slayer, slayer every time, an listen to testament, it will make you balls ache its so manly ;)
I love slayer too. the problem is I have listeened to them on my mp3 for the past 6 months straight. even though rainin blood and here comes the pain never get old, I always love fresh musical stuff. I love shit that gets me in a trance. Its the only way to work out. To forget that you have a body, to forget that you have limitations. Its not easy to reach that state. In fact its damn near hard. Because so many factors play along. However certain music puts me over the edge. All I hear is give me pain, and destroy. Its that state where you feel like you just took 5 lines of coke. Unbreakable, the best high there is
dominate77
08-01-07, 5:35 am
I love slayer too. the problem is I have listeened to them on my mp3 for the past 6 months straight. even though rainin blood and here comes the pain never get old, I always love fresh musical stuff. I love shit that gets me in a trance. Its the only way to work out. To forget that you have a body, to forget that you have limitations. Its not easy to reach that state. In fact its damn near hard. Because so many factors play along. However certain music puts me over the edge. All I hear is give me pain, and destroy. Its that state where you feel like you just took 5 lines of coke. Unbreakable, the best high there is
if you try something else for say a month, than come back with slayer after about that long without listening to it, its practically brand new....by the way anyone ever heard of blood for blood...best band i've ever heard
darkside64
08-06-07, 7:37 am
I just wanted to share this story with all of you, I believe that it is significant enough to be told here. A couple of years back my dad had a partner who visited Florida. One night he was driving home after dinner, and got hit by a drunk driver going 60mph. T boned the car. All of them were half dead in the car, and had to go to the hospital immediately. Upon arriving every member of the family was under intensive care. They had broken so many bones, and had such significant brain damage, that they could not move for months. The insurance of the drunk driver only went up to $20,000. within a matter of months the hospital bills were a couple 100g's. afte a while the family had to be flown over to germany again, because they were broke, and could not afford to stay at the hospital any longer. The entire family is back in germany, and never recovered. The father of the family cant have a conversation without forgettin what was said 5 minutes prior. as for the rest of the family their lives are pretty much ruined by bills and pain. for all of you that think that life goes on forever, guess what it doesnt. And you dont always die when your old. So get to work and stop wasting time.
Joker-Roo
08-06-07, 8:00 am
I just wanted to share this story with all of you, I believe that it is significant enough to be told here. A couple of years back my dad had a partner who visited Florida. One night he was driving home after dinner, and got hit by a drunk driver going 60mph. T boned the car. All of them were half dead in the car, and had to go to the hospital immediately. Upon arriving every member of the family was under intensive care. They had broken so many bones, and had such significant brain damage, that they could not move for months. The insurance of the drunk driver only went up to $20,000. within a matter of months the hospital bills were a couple 100g's. afte a while the family had to be flown over to germany again, because they were broke, and could not afford to stay at the hospital any longer. The entire family is back in germany, and never recovered. The father of the family cant have a conversation without forgettin what was said 5 minutes prior. as for the rest of the family their lives are pretty much ruined by bills and pain. for all of you that think that life goes on forever, guess what it doesnt. And you dont always die when your old. So get to work and stop wasting time.
Sad shit man, nothing pisses me off more then drunk drivers. But its a wake up call to anyone like us who is fortunate not to of had that happen to them.
Andru
ChandlerXJ
08-06-07, 8:07 am
Wow man, legit post. I feel you, I know a lot of people who have already ruined their lives drinking, and they're all not even of legal age yet! People are stupid, more people drunk drive than sober drive, I'm convinced.
I have more ex-friends who have DUI's than I have real friends without DUI's now. Who the fuck gets in a car and wants to DRIVE after you've been drinking? ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS?
I was actually almost killed, hit head on by a drunk driver. I was with my 2 buddies one night and a car swerved into our lane, and I had to drive off the road and almost flip my jeep to avoid this car, it was really scary. Stunned, but severely angry, we pulled a u turn and followed that car. We blew through every fucking red light it blew through, because we were going to show this person what the deal was. We called 911, and you know what? They didn't give a shit. There was a REALLY drunk driver, who almost killed me and my best friends, and was about to kill someone else, and they didn't know what to say or do. We turned back, it wasn't worth it. They'll get theirs.
Funny thing about this story, 2 weeks later, I pulled out of the store, and the car who almost hit me was right in front of me. So, I followed it for a while, seeing where they lived so I could throw a brick at their car with a nice note or something. I followed this guy for 20 minutes, you know where I followed him too? The package store. He buys 2 cases of beer. It's not worth it, don't even associate yourself with these useless fucks.
Change your life. If you're building your body don't break it down. Don't let someone give you heat for not drinking - they aren't you. If they were friends, and real ones, they would support you and understand. The best test of friendship is to see what your friend says when you say, "nah, I'm not drinking tonight, I'm working on my body."
Be the one who doesn't drink, be the one who drives everyone home. That's what we are, we're the unsung heroes.
darkside64
08-06-07, 8:15 am
yea man. Im sad to admit I have done my fair share of drunk driving. I like many other was not even legal to drink yet. As ridiculous as driving drunk is. The moral of the story is, could have been me. This is one of many examples of how we need to take control NOW. Fuck up shit man. fucked up. That could have been my stupid ass back then. Young and dumb, but I got lucky.
I just wanted to share this story with all of you, I believe that it is significant enough to be told here. A couple of years back my dad had a partner who visited Florida. One night he was driving home after dinner, and got hit by a drunk driver going 60mph. T boned the car. All of them were half dead in the car, and had to go to the hospital immediately. Upon arriving every member of the family was under intensive care. They had broken so many bones, and had such significant brain damage, that they could not move for months. The insurance of the drunk driver only went up to $20,000. within a matter of months the hospital bills were a couple 100g's. afte a while the family had to be flown over to germany again, because they were broke, and could not afford to stay at the hospital any longer. The entire family is back in germany, and never recovered. The father of the family cant have a conversation without forgettin what was said 5 minutes prior. as for the rest of the family their lives are pretty much ruined by bills and pain. for all of you that think that life goes on forever, guess what it doesnt. And you dont always die when your old. So get to work and stop wasting time.
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sorry to hear about this...
good reality check, , ,
do the best today, because we can't bank on tomorrow!
bigrhino
08-06-07, 11:57 am
drunk drivers are one of things that really makes me mad.
besides the point, i don't get why they didn't recieve full treatment. at least they are still alive.
don't take anything for granted. try to appreciate what you have WHILE you still have it. that way, you know you used it to the full potential while you had it.
I watched so many kids die here in my town...Pleasanton CA...mostly from rich families...no money probems at all....kids had it all...along with too much booze and drugs...and last school year....I believe 4 died from driving while under the influence of drink and drugs....my son...now 20.....was involved in all of this...did not hurt anyone except himself....no licence..no insurance...and was doing his buddies a favor driving them home..this was almost 3 years ago....got caught by the local police while swerving in his lane at 3 AM....got popped for drink and other drugs in the system at the time...called me from jail...."come get me daddy" and my answer was..."you can rot in that cell for all I care bro" and he did 5 days in the tank. I did not help him one ioda with this process...he took the full brunt of the storm on this charge...paied over 5K in fines....took a 14 month long class.....and just now...almost 3 years later....just got his permit to drive...and under many restrictions...and his insurance....astronimicle...as is should be!!!.....so....during his stent getting all his shit together...he did not show up to a court date...thought it was..."gay" as he once thought...and during a routiene stop with his friends...the officer pulled all the id's and there he was...jumped bench warrent.... and back to jail for another 6 days...and once again...I said..."enjoy the Oakland Raider Fan club bro....its all you"....Tough love here...and now...he cleaned up....driving...and responsible..and get this...even respects the law..which is no longer...."GAY"...seems even the with the gayness that the kids think the cops are...bottom line is...they can lock your ass up..and its all over. I have seen the kids cry at the loss of a friend...all of them pout and hold candel vigils....tough shit.....dont morn thier loss...they were stupid...laughing...thought they were the road runner and cyotie...never die...and willing to take others with them...like other peoples parents on the way home from food shopping...moms with thier babies from the park....it never ends...not untill the kids and adults wake the fuck up and think.....which is hard to do when your drunk. Its hard enough to say healthy without the drink and durgs.....its a challange not to endulge when sad....down and out..but to take lives with a car....due to drinking....its horrible...usless...and a total waist of life.......any of you that think this is a tough thread.....or my post is hard...tough shit....I have seen this happen so many times...and its got to stop......
Ricky P
08-06-07, 12:27 pm
Russ I'm with ya on this one. It's just tough to see how many people still don't get it. It's like it has to happen to them on a personal level in order for it to sink in. I know I've had two friends who were killed in a drunk driving accident when they were 17 and 20 years old. Another one of my friends dad hit someone while he was under the influence and spent three years in prison. It's a tough thing to deal with, again some people just need to see it on a personal level in order for it to effect them.
darkside64
08-06-07, 3:43 pm
I watched so many kids die here in my town...Pleasanton CA...mostly from rich families...no money probems at all....kids had it all...along with too much booze and drugs...and last school year....I believe 4 died from driving while under the influence of drink and drugs....my son...now 20.....was involved in all of this...did not hurt anyone except himself....no licence..no insurance...and was doing his buddies a favor driving them home..this was almost 3 years ago....got caught by the local police while swerving in his lane at 3 AM....got popped for drink and other drugs in the system at the time...called me from jail...."come get me daddy" and my answer was..."you can rot in that cell for all I care bro" and he did 5 days in the tank. I did not help him one ioda with this process...he took the full brunt of the storm on this charge...paied over 5K in fines....took a 14 month long class.....and just now...almost 3 years later....just got his permit to drive...and under many restrictions...and his insurance....astronimicle...as is should be!!!.....so....during his stent getting all his shit together...he did not show up to a court date...thought it was..."gay" as he once thought...and during a routiene stop with his friends...the officer pulled all the id's and there he was...jumped bench warrent.... and back to jail for another 6 days...and once again...I said..."enjoy the Oakland Raider Fan club bro....its all you"....Tough love here...and now...he cleaned up....driving...and responsible..and get this...even respects the law..which is no longer...."GAY"...seems even the with the gayness that the kids think the cops are...bottom line is...they can lock your ass up..and its all over. I have seen the kids cry at the loss of a friend...all of them pout and hold candel vigils....tough shit.....dont morn thier loss...they were stupid...laughing...thought they were the road runner and cyotie...never die...and willing to take others with them...like other peoples parents on the way home from food shopping...moms with thier babies from the park....it never ends...not untill the kids and adults wake the fuck up and think.....which is hard to do when your drunk. Its hard enough to say healthy without the drink and durgs.....its a challange not to endulge when sad....down and out..but to take lives with a car....due to drinking....its horrible...usless...and a total waist of life.......any of you that think this is a tough thread.....or my post is hard...tough shit....I have seen this happen so many times...and its got to stop......
yea bro I deff hear ya. Driving drunk is bullshit. I like the response though, how untypical for you americans. Thats exactly the mentality of my parents. To be honest, I hate it sometims. They are millionaires and dont give me shit. However in the back of my head I know that its all garbage and would turn me into a soft nobody. I have had my fair share of experiences with drunk driving. One of my friends got a dui. No reason. Get drunk, fine dont drive. Here in Germany we are a little smarter with that shit. (there are exceptions of course)
nice to see your post here...admire you bro....haveing rich parents does not mean a thing...sometimes its a negitive thing...but if it can be a path to success...follow in thier footsteps...then you are good to go....My girl is strong and takes the lead and learns from her dad...a very hard working successful man...and I can tell you this...she is not spoiled...but a hard working soul...this I know for sure ....and Im proud of her ......
Lowdown5
08-06-07, 8:56 pm
Everynight I thank God that during my days of old that I never killed anyone. I can't tell you how many times I got behind the wheel either drunk or stoned out of my mind. And I ask myself to this day, what the fuck was I doing? But I don't know if it was luck or what, but I never hurt another soul. I got a DUI in 1987, before it really got tough with sentencing and stuff. That didn't even slow me down. What a fucking moron I was. Been sober and clean almost 6 years, only addictions now are family and iron. I will be the designated driver for anybody near by, anytime. I figure I owe it to them and God to keep someone else from taking the risks that I was spared.
Far Beyond Driven
08-06-07, 9:18 pm
Man, I did some foolish shit in my early 20's, but one night brought it to an end. I was driving home one night, after having one too many, and I get pulled over for a taillight out. I get the field sobriety test from the officer, and pass it. Im sweating like hell, trying not to slur my words or let him notice my breath. HE ACTUALLY LETS ME GO. So I'm scared as hell, driving home. I get to the road my house is on, and GET PULLED OVER BY ANOTHER COP, FOR THE SAME THING. He asked if I knew why he pulled me over. I said, "the taillamp. An officer just pulled me over for that 2 miles or so back." He tells me to have a good night, and leaves. I make it home safely. That was the last time, the wake up call. Nobody gets that lucky twice.
Far Beyond Driven
08-06-07, 9:26 pm
Quick addendum: My wife was in the car with me. DON'T EVER BE THIS STUPID.
Liftbig21
08-06-07, 11:52 pm
I watched so many kids die here in my town...Pleasanton CA...mostly from rich families...no money probems at all....kids had it all...along with too much booze and drugs...and last school year....I believe 4 died from driving while under the influence of drink and drugs....my son...now 20.....was involved in all of this...did not hurt anyone except himself....no licence..no insurance...and was doing his buddies a favor driving them home..this was almost 3 years ago....got caught by the local police while swerving in his lane at 3 AM....got popped for drink and other drugs in the system at the time...called me from jail...."come get me daddy" and my answer was..."you can rot in that cell for all I care bro" and he did 5 days in the tank. I did not help him one ioda with this process...he took the full brunt of the storm on this charge...paied over 5K in fines....took a 14 month long class.....and just now...almost 3 years later....just got his permit to drive...and under many restrictions...and his insurance....astronimicle...as is should be!!!.....so....during his stent getting all his shit together...he did not show up to a court date...thought it was..."gay" as he once thought...and during a routiene stop with his friends...the officer pulled all the id's and there he was...jumped bench warrent.... and back to jail for another 6 days...and once again...I said..."enjoy the Oakland Raider Fan club bro....its all you"....Tough love here...and now...he cleaned up....driving...and responsible..and get this...even respects the law..which is no longer...."GAY"...seems even the with the gayness that the kids think the cops are...bottom line is...they can lock your ass up..and its all over. I have seen the kids cry at the loss of a friend...all of them pout and hold candel vigils....tough shit.....dont morn thier loss...they were stupid...laughing...thought they were the road runner and cyotie...never die...and willing to take others with them...like other peoples parents on the way home from food shopping...moms with thier babies from the park....it never ends...not untill the kids and adults wake the fuck up and think.....which is hard to do when your drunk. Its hard enough to say healthy without the drink and durgs.....its a challange not to endulge when sad....down and out..but to take lives with a car....due to drinking....its horrible...usless...and a total waist of life.......any of you that think this is a tough thread.....or my post is hard...tough shit....I have seen this happen so many times...and its got to stop......
Russ my brother....very very good post and i felt every emotion on that post and i feel the same way...lost a good buddy to a drunk driver along with an uncle..and i dont drink...and when you live in a richie town where kids drive more drunk then sober...i tend to fly off the handle about this issue since the cops pull you over for goin 2 over the limit when theres kids driving under the influence...and i have a little brother that my mom takes everywhere and i cant help but get enraged when shes out and knowing their out there...be safe boys and girls...for this life can be taken from you...no matter how hard you hold on...its not always in your control...Ill tell you this its safe to say we wont go out quietly....
violator
08-07-07, 7:12 am
2 true gents, DUI aint so fly....Had my share of these days many years ago, in fact in early 2000 i hit the back of a truck on the freeway at 3am in the morn, almost killed myself. After losing 4 friends to it over 3yrs, i vowed never to do it again......but we must all pay for our sins, ironically my rotator cuff is acting up these last few weeks & thats from the injury i sustained in the accident so long ago.
I guess with so many people DUI on the roads, &in my country, south africa, its estimated that 60% of drivers on the roads after 10pm are DUI!-shocking!the only thing we can do is learn to drive defensively, always be aware of the vehicles around u, use ur mirrors and keep track of traffic at least 5 cars ahead.....be prepared...& drive safe ya'll.
peace
darkside64
08-10-07, 4:46 am
so I was daydreaming yesterday about my leg workout that Im going to have today. I was thinking about training legs with machine. I was thinking how pumped I would be. How I would kill myself just so I could have machines respect. Then something hit me and it made me feel pretty shitty about myself. What happens when I train and no ones looking. Of course Im still gonna beat the shit out of myself. I guarantee you that I would be more motivated to train with someone with machine. Why is that. Shouldnt we have the most respect of ourselves. When we train shouldnt the very reason that we are going to the gym be out of self respect. Then I thought further. Look at guys like machine. He doesnt need anyone to push him. His pride and self respect put him on a standard where few(if anyone) are able to keep up. that is why he is able to live the insane lifestyle that he lives. I dont know if I articulated all that correctly. But I need to get to that level at all costs.
never_2_big
08-10-07, 6:35 am
i feel you dude, ive blown away every training partner ive had just to show myself what i can do. i train solo these days and honestly the intensity that i train at now has increased heaps. no one to watch no one to beat except for my own expectations, when you hit that intensity you know you are where ure supposed to be.
darkside64
08-10-07, 8:26 am
i feel you dude, ive blown away every training partner ive had just to show myself what i can do. i train solo these days and honestly the intensity that i train at now has increased heaps. no one to watch no one to beat except for my own expectations, when you hit that intensity you know you are where ure supposed to be.
props to you my friend. I think you should be the first and foremost person you should impress. No one else. Well 15 minutes from now its time for me to get on my bike and ride that motherfucking snake to valhala
I like it when there's hardly anyone in the gym. easier to get into the zone. I purposly go to the gym when it's slow, if my schedule allows it
I like it when there's hardly anyone in the gym. easier to get into the zone. I purposly go to the gym when it's slow, if my schedule allows it
i hear that bro, i train at an la fitness and though it has a lot of good equipment, it's gotta lotta babes and assholes...i wear a hat down low and dont pay attention to anyone and bust through my work out.
BigAnt said to me the other week "it's not where you train that matters, it's the attitude you bring"
goes the same for who youre trainign with, whether it's with yourself or 10 other people, you just gotta want to do some damage, day in and day out. simple as that.
darkside64
08-10-07, 5:05 pm
i hear that bro, i train at an la fitness and though it has a lot of good equipment, it's gotta lotta babes and assholes...i wear a hat down low and dont pay attention to anyone and bust through my work out.
BigAnt said to me the other week "it's not where you train that matters, it's the attitude you bring"
goes the same for who youre trainign with, whether it's with yourself or 10 other people, you just gotta want to do some damage, day in and day out. simple as that.
well that is true. Although when the gym is so pussy, that even training hard(not talking about droppin weights or screaming) is not allowed, because it could intimidate people. Haha. whatever I dont give a fuck I still do. they kick me out, ce la vi
MassMonster
08-10-07, 5:18 pm
the only person u gotta prove aything to is the 1 that looks back at u in the mirror.... its always cool to get respect from the big guys but it shouldnt be why u lift... that is for yourself only....
Testpolska
08-11-07, 11:13 am
To be recognized for our efforts and to relish the fact that we are looked up to or commended for what we are doing is only human. But there is a line that must be drawn. Its like this: If you are alone on a desert island and had a rack and bar and some plates would you lift knowing that your most likly never going to see another human being again?
Bottom line do it for yourself but theres nothing wrong with enjoying the support of others. Humans seek acceptance,love and warmth. Its in our nature. But too much of these things can make you soft,weak and vunerable. Find the middle ground.
At least thats how I see it.
darkside64
08-12-07, 10:09 am
Guys I have been havin a tough time lately dealin with people. Not just any people but my fucking family. They diss me like its going out of style. No matter what I do im considered lazy and a loser. I dont get it. I train my ass off everyday. I told my mom that I worked legs so hard friday that I puked, and then finished my workout. She just laughed at me. How am I supposed to react to something like that. I get such hot anger rising over me. because she just doesnt respect anything I do. If you ever saw fightclub. Look at the ed norton in the beginning(the ikea boy). that would be her dream son. Im not that motherfucker nor will I ever be. I told her that I will be an pro bodybuilder, and that I would rather be an homeless junkie, than be some pathetic clown who works 9 to 5, and thinks his shit dont stink because he makes more money than others. Its just hard guys when everyone always doubts you, but in a way im glad, because it gives me the fuel for the fire to burn. fuck
Squat_Heavy
08-12-07, 10:12 am
Guys I have been havin a tough time lately dealin with people. Not just any people but my fucking family. They diss me like its going out of style. No matter what I do im considered lazy and a loser. I dont get it. I train my ass off everyday. I told my mom that I worked legs so hard friday that I puked, and then finished my workout. She just laughed at me. How am I supposed to react to something like that. I get such hot anger rising over me. because she just doesnt respect anything I do. If you ever saw fightclub. Look at the ed norton in the beginning(the ikea boy). that would be her dream son. Im not that motherfucker nor will I ever be. I told her that I will be an pro bodybuilder, and that I would rather be an homeless junkie, than be some pathetic clown who works 9 to 5, and thinks his shit dont stink because he makes more money than others. Its just hard guys when everyone always doubts you, but in a way im glad, because it gives me the fuel for the fire to burn. fuck
If the don't respect you, well then you might considering moving out. Or else they will just be a perpetual speedbump in your road and drag your ass down.
darkside64
08-12-07, 10:15 am
If the don't respect you, well then you might considering moving out. Or else they will just be a perpetual speedbump in your road and drag your ass down.
I know man. Its rough right now. I live in germany and I still havent gotten a job. I got a job interview in cologne in two weeks, but shit man; it just sucks when your family are your enemy. If your not with me your against me. for everyone that has a girl or family that support what they do. Hold them close to your heart and treat them like royalty
Squat_Heavy
08-12-07, 10:19 am
I know man. Its rough right now. I live in germany and I still havent gotten a job. I got a job interview in cologne in two weeks, but shit man; it just sucks when your family are your enemy. If your not with me your against me. for everyone that has a girl or family that support what they do. Hold them close to your heart and treat them like royalty
Well, my family was like that too. They bagged on me with every part of the life, the eating, the cooler, the training, the stretch marks the whole deal. One day i told them that if they didn't have the fucking brains to understand that this is MY life and what i want to do then i was gonna move out and cut all contact. They got better but still doesn't quite get it. It's so far of from their perspective of what life should bee. " Why aren't you out partying like normal kids" My normal reply is, " Because i'm not normal, i am a wolf, and i don't mingle with sheep. I don't need that shit called alcohol in my life". I am moving out within 3-4 months myself so.Hope it gets better
Far Beyond Driven
08-12-07, 10:22 am
Hey, Darkside, do I have a brother I don't know about? It's like you just described my family. They think that bodybuilding is vain, stupid and narcissistic. I get so angry and tired of them denigrating something I love. It's sad when your own flesh and blood doesn't know who you are. Thank god that my wife supports me.
Iron_Spirit
08-12-07, 8:41 pm
He doesnt need anyone to push him. His pride and self respect put him on a standard where few(if anyone) are able to keep up. that is why he is able to live the insane lifestyle that he lives [...] I need to get to that level at all costs.
I couldn't agree more. You know... I personally dislike knowing that someone trains harder than me, so I always elevate the intensity I use in the gym to the maximum level possible, when you're doing that, no one can keep up, that's why I train alone.
No laughs, no smile, no talking, no bullshit... just plain balls to the wall training.
bigrhino
08-12-07, 11:35 pm
Hey, Darkside, do I have a brother I don't know about? It's like you just described my family. They think that bodybuilding is vain, stupid and narcissistic. I get so angry and tired of them denigrating something I love. It's sad when your own flesh and blood doesn't know who you are. Thank god that my wife supports me.
my family used to get on my case with this. basically, i just stopped talking about the gym and the food i eat. told them i am not trying to gain weight (not). i am moving out about a week to go off to school, so that's good.
just dont talk about what you do. don't try to argue with your parents/family/gf. like dont bring up how they might be hypocrits or what not. just be cool and keep it all to yourself.
the only thing i say when they say bb'ing vain or narcissistic i tell them "i am only in the gym for an hour 4 days a week." don't even bring up food. that is going to get you in more trouble
MassMonster
08-12-07, 11:53 pm
most families are like this bro.... parents dont understand .... they think if it dont bring in money or lead to bring in money its a waste of time.... my dad and step mom are exactly like this... they fuckin discredit every fuckin thing i do and put on a negative spin.... i suggest u get away from itif u can... because it'll drive u mad....
bigrhino
08-12-07, 11:57 pm
kind of curious. for the younger guys like me who live with your parents. do they know you come on this site. mine would probably have a heart attack if they come on here
Lowdown5
08-13-07, 12:00 am
Speaking as a parent, it is hard to understand things our kids do that are outside the norm. The only thing you can do is be your best and make the best of an otherwise fucked up situation. If they don't understand what you are doing, maybe try to educate them. If they close their mind, than let it go. Train and eat the best you can until the situation works it's self out.
My parents know that i love bodybuilding and they encourage it. My dad has been in the sport for years and got me into it and has been using Animalpak and Universal supps long before i was born. My mom is alot more off put by the subject cause to her bodybuilders with alot of muscle are gross. Makes me wonder how she puts up with my dad.
Hey, my parents are as old-skool as you can get. My dad is 78 and my mom is 66. Both italians, devoted Catholics, born and raised in New York..never left the city either. A different generation with a totally different mindset altogether. My dad is just now learning how to use the computer and how to get online! He still hates it too...he says, "back in my day...blah blah blah"..I heard all the stories a million times.
When I was getting ready for my June show (this past June) I stayed with my parents so they got to see upfront and very personal what show prep was all about for me. The stress I went through that week of the show was tremendous. They did not or even want to understand any of it. As far as they were concerned it was all wrong...I was all wrong. I cant even begin to tell you what i went through with them from morning to night.
After begging for them to watch the pre-judging, they broke and decided to go. They sure did look like misfits being there in the audience and when I was on that stage, the first thing I saw was my son's big eyes as he watched in pure amazement and then my parents, snickering to one another with that face! You know..Im sure you all have parents that make "that face!"
I swore I would never make "that face" at my boy..but he has already pointed out to me on numerous occasions.."mom, dont give me that face!" LOL
You will find later on..much later..how much of your parents ways you will just inherit without realizing you did. LOL
Anyway, I did my thing..a bit self-consciously cause they were there. After the show, for the first time ever in my life, they were understanding of what it was all about. They actually were proud of me for the first time...at least the first time they ever said so out loud to my face.
I realized then that this is not something they would have ever desired to do cause they are a different generation and times were different when they were my age. Now, we have the privilege to take part in athletics and extracurricular activities and not for the money...for personal achievement/accomplishment and pure joy of the sport.
My parents now are still set in their ways...but at least they opened up a bit to what I am all about in regard to BB'ing. Now, perhaps you need to find a way to open up your mom's eyes a bit cause right now...she doesnt get it.
Fighting or being defensive isnt gonna cut it...me being a mom...trust me..not gonna cut it.
We need something else...Im sure you can figure it out. You dont have a choice if you want her to really appreciate and respect what your all about.
darkside64
08-13-07, 3:40 am
thanks toni. I really dont even care anymore. I just do my thing and thats it. If they kick me out of the house, so be it. Im moving out as soon as I can anyway. the way I see it, Arnolds mom always bagged on arnold for not being normal. they told him that he was lazy. Look where arnold is today. I know that Iam by no means a lazy bodybuilder. I prove that to myself everytime I eat a can of tuna, everytime I throw up from training legs. I will make the best of the situation. Its lonely at the top
Keep at it and don't let it drag you into the ground. Just channel all that rage into hitting the weights.
As far as being called lazy, don't sweat it man, it is hard for people to accept something they themselves can never imagine doing. You are headed down the right path, Just keep your head up and make do with the situation for now.
There will come a time when they will respect what you do, they just wish that you had more dedication for the things they wanted for you, and followed their path, instead of travelling down an unknown road for you and your folks. It will all work itself out in the end.
Cheers
Berserker
08-14-07, 3:16 am
Family is overrated, You dont need them.
Move out and cut contact. Make your life how you want it.
welshwarrior
08-14-07, 4:31 am
Brother, im mid way through moving out (got a place just haven't moved all my shit into it yet) cos of stuff like this.Stick it out at home as long as you can cos it aint cheap (i have definately realised this one lately lol).
And remember... in the immortal words of Will Smith 'parents just don't understand'