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It often happens that life creeps up on us. It has a funny way of keeping us in check. When we think we have things figured out it comes up from behind and gives us a swift kick in the ass. We can never allow ourselves to be comfortable with what we have accomplished and we must continually strive to better ourselves as well as the lives of those around us. Nothing in our lives is promised, we are owed nothing. One day our time will run out and it is up to us whether or not we will be satisfied with the live we have lived.
This is how I've tried to live... recently that has only been reinforced.
I cant imagine what my friend is going though right now. When she was 19 years old she was diagnosed with colon cancer. In someone so young that is almost unheard of. Unfortunately, because it was so rare it was not acted upon with the urgency that was necessary and it spread. First to her ovaries, then to her lymphatic system and then throughout her body. During a chemo treatment they screwed up and gave her a double dose. She lost all her hair within a few hours. But still, through all this she went on to continue college and graduated with a criminal justice degree. She had even found a job working in a juvenile corrections facility. While people told her she should drop out of college or quit her job and enjoy life in the time she had left, she refused. She would not give in and surrender. She felt that she needed to make a difference anyway that she could. She fought this battle for about 6 years, never allowing it to get the best of her. But now, the doctors have given her just two more days to live. Her viewing and funeral are set for tuesday and wednesday of this coming week. Imagine knowing when your funeral date is... that is a reality that would break the average person, but she is being strong about it. She was a great person who i have learned a lot from. She will be an inspiration to all that knew her.
I suppose I just needed to get my thoughts out in the open, i feel comfortable talking about it on here, not because this is relatively anonymous, but because we all share a connection and have had struggles in our own lives. But also i am hopeful that, although none of you knew her, her story may enlighten you, even if only one of you. And if so, i know it would make her happy.
-Veritas-
BigWillay
02-02-07, 11:58 pm
damnn that was deep bro.....
well i guess ur rite life aint fair but like you said she didnt give up and didnt let life break her and we should all learn from that no matter how tough and how hard life can get we need to stick in their and give life the finger straight back it and show it we aint going down so easily...thats what makes a warrior and seperates those who are to be remebered from those who will be forgotten.
may god have mercy on her and on her soul and bless us all with a spirit to conquer all obstacles that life maybe have instored for us!
Yeah life is a bitch Barron, i gotta agree with you on that. 3 years ago my dad passed away from some kind of heart problem, and was taking so many pills and medicines to help him out, he never liked it all but he did it anyway, and he always would be at the gym before going into work no matter what.
but after seein my own father in the hospital for a month straight and in the beginning not able to recognize me, my sisters, or even my mother. i knew this was fucked. but a month in the hospital only bein able to talk to him, and see him lying there fightin to live was fuckin terrible
what i'm saying is.....i never understood why, because we live in a country were there are people that are fucking obese and overweight like crazy and dont bother about their health, then there was my father, who served in the army, trained and tryed to be healthy as ever.......life aint fair brother
yeah....like Barron, i felt i had to get that off my chest too
Achilles
02-03-07, 3:56 am
I lost my ole man to cancer when he was just getting to the point in his life were he was getting everything he wanted .. then the creeping death took him .. life aint fair brother .. but you make that girl a promise you aint gonna give up or give in and you live EVERY DAY for that girl and never EVER look back ..
focused
02-03-07, 10:33 am
I lost my ole man to cancer when he was just getting to the point in his life were he was getting everything he wanted .. then the creeping death took him .. life aint fair brother .. but you make that girl a promise you aint gonna give up or give in and you live EVERY DAY for that girl and never EVER look back ..
worst bout bout my ole man....he wasnt even old brother. only 46
DreamZero
02-03-07, 10:33 am
Life throws at you what you only what you are strong enough to deal with.
I hope you have faith bro.. In god or anything else.. This helped me alot when I lost my father and 2 friends. You should talk about it with her. She sure looks amazingly strong, but some sharing about the other life will only make her more confident about the crossing.
Don't ever give up, the hardest part is still to come.. Take all the time you need to get over with you mourning.. and don't forget to talk to her even when her body has collapsed.
She will be an exemple of courage and determination to all of us..
Thanks for sharing bro
If you need anything, we'll all be there
Enforcer25
02-03-07, 3:40 pm
Barron, I just wanted to say that was an inspiring story and in my opinion your friend illustrates the Animal mentality perfectly, she didn't give up, did things her way, let us know if you need anything Bro, as it was said before, we are here for you.
Pokoritel
02-03-07, 7:26 pm
That is a very inspiring life she had, and she went on to to get a degree and live her life to the fullest. Life is tough sometimes i mean i watch my old man and he has been in the hospitals at times as well in severe conditions. He bleeds from his nose all the time and now all the bones in his body are in pain, but day in and out he gets his ass up to go work so that i can get food, go to school, and have a better life then him. He is getting better though and that I am thankful for. That girl, my father, and other ppl out there who are fighting day in and out to accomplish their goals and take care of there families are the true Animals in our lives. Failure is not an option for them and it shouldnt be for us, advance and conqueror. Strength and Honor brothers.
sorry baron i know my problem is trivial compared to yours i know its very deep i can feel the burn in your heart and the boiling in your blood iam sorry man
Barron, I am truly sorry for what you are goin through. A dear friend of mine was just diagnosed with brain cancer a week and a half ago so I can relate. Shes like a mother to me and I love her dearly and it is hard knowing that you are going to lose someone that you care for so deeply.
dsquared
02-15-07, 10:13 pm
Hey, bro. While its not exactly the same, right now we're waiting to find out what's wrong with my dad. They don't think its cancer, but they're running some biopsies just to be sure. While I couldn't imagine what you're going through, I know what its like to play the waiting game. I am so sorry, my man. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend.
Im sorry to hear that bro...My father has survived cancer twice and he is only 48. I have had to watch him almost die in a hospital bed and the doctors just found something else growing inside of him...I swear I was never one to say this but I agree life does suck. He has always been in perfect shape, never smoked, or drank and yet god seems to have it in for him...Thats about as ironic as it gets. My old man has taught me alot and I pray for him every night but I know its only a matter of time before cancer gets the better of him...
born0withno0soul
02-16-07, 2:29 am
Sorry brother about that. Life is tough and we keep pushing on. but dont ask that the experience that girl went through to strengthen our lives, let it strengthen your life because you experience first hand what can be taken as we all will sonner or later.
Hay buddy...so sorry to hear this...lost my dad 18 years ago to cancer...there is never anything we can say to fix this..but just know we are here for you...and we all care. this is a great brotherhood...we all do our best to hang tough. My thoughts are with you bro...my quote here has some meaning at this time......
thinking about you bro....you hang....
barron, sorry to hear about all that...you know that we are ALL here for you if you ever need anything..
strength and honor brother.
First, I would like to start by making sure yous understand that this is not a negative attack on the Animal lifestyle or anyone on or associated with this forum. This was just something I was thinking about today as I was doing the Barron System of Training (or so my dad calls it). In reality it is his way of getting me to do the heavy work around the house. Today I had to carry a pallet of cinder blocks, block by block, from the front of my house to up behind my garage (about 40 yards uphill and up steps).
However, as some of us criticize conformity I think we tend to overlook the fact that we too are conforming. We have conformed to this Animal lifestyle. In our journey to differentiate ourselves from the mass, we have yet again grouped together. Unfortunately in that respect we are much like those who, in an attempted to be different, all turned out the same.
Now, don’t get me wrong, if I am to be associated with any group, I sure as hell want it to be this one. This Animal lifestyle is one of dignity and respect. It is much more honorable than nearly any other ideal that people conform to. It is just my hope that, as we come together for support and strength, that you all keep your own identity.
You can build 100 different trucks and put the same engine in all of them. They all have their own identity, but the same fire inside drives them. Be that way. Don’t change who you are to fit the Animal lifestyle, instead, use this lifestyle as a way to make who you are stronger.
-Veritas-
karmazon
03-13-07, 2:21 am
I understand perfectly with what you're saying. There's actually so much conformity on these this forum, my head hurts. It seems everybody here has the same diet and routine, because that's all I ever see, no one does anything out of the ordinary no one says anything out of the ordinary, and people that do, quickly get shot down by majority. Oh well, that's how society works.