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Hey boys,
First let me introduce myself. My name is Evan, my friends call me Fletch, I'm pushin 18, 5'9ish sitting at about 175lbs around 10-11.5%. I've been lifting for a few years ut until about four months ago was never dedicated to bodybuilding...
After having my girlfriend at the time mention something about the fact that my biceps have gotten smaller, something inside me clicked and I spent the next few days reading over Wraths Journey, wondering if I can do it, no fuck that... knowing that I can do it, wondering if I can handle the shit that comes with it. I lost myself that day. The next day I told my girlfriend that I find what i had been looking for, and the day after I broke the news to my lacrosse coach that his captain wasnt returning his senior year.
After I got my diet cleaned up and started liftin like a man again things fell into place. I carried myself differently, with a quiet confidence that only iron can give yah know boys? That look in my eyes that others notice. Then the questions started coming, why do you do this? you know your gonna get fat? didnt you know creatine shrinks your nuts? I just laughed... Most called me obsessed, shit most CALL me obsessed, my parents lecture me daily, my girl left me because she couldnt share me with the iron, and a fun rumor started around my school that I was on steroids.
Before I fell into this I had alot of friends yah know? I was always with the "jocks" and cheerleaders, sat at that so called fucking "popular" table with the fake girls that would sleep with you at the drop of a hat then talk shit about your shirt as soon as you turn around... When I started this journey everything changed, I couldnt eat what i have to without having the constant hits about steroids, jokes about the shirts i wear that have bodybuild sayings on... it just got old guys. haha now they don't call, I don't sit with them, I don't have to put up with the constant gossip, I don't have to stand in the middle of their big group between classes, I dont look forward to hanging out with them after school, nothing... The only thing that matters now are those that hung by my ass when I decided not to be "normal"...
the only thing that matters now is the iron, and damnit the iron is good... Now we're living
bodybuilding is living,
Fletch
darkside64
01-31-07, 12:33 pm
thats tite bro. I started lifting when I was 15. I still rememer the weight, setting, everything. Once I started gaining I got the same bullshit thrown at me that you did. Who fuckin cares. The fact of the matter is that you have stepped out of your little bullshit world into something real. Good to hear man, and keep it up
peace
Its funny because once you start living for yourself and decide to stop living the expected life that everyone else confroms to, people you thought were friends disappear, the same bitches that say i love you forever are now among the ones that ridicule you, and the society looks at you as if you dont belong. But fuck em, because i betcha you feel great that youre doing this shit for yourself. Good to hear youve started to open your eyes bro
One
you know, it sounds like maybe you grew up a bit, while your 'friends' didn't. a true friend sticks by your side no matter what you're going through, no matter what your lifestyle is. don't sweat it man, stay true to yourself, and others that understand you will soon find you.
karmazon
01-31-07, 3:36 pm
As Henry Rollins said: Friends may come and go...
...but two hundred pounds is always two hundred pounds.
Nice bro. I was never much a super social one, I never cared for getting shitfaced simply to be shitfaced and bragging about how much I drank, never cared for the "norm" or any kind of conformity, or being surrounded by the biggest number of people to look popular. Shit, I've eaten alone once or twice in HS, these days it's all I do. I know how to be by myself, and to be slightly cliche and quote from a great song, "going down the only road I've ever known" Ain't nothin wrong with that bro, welcome to what's outside the backdoor of acceptable society, welcome to the iron life. Welcome to Animal.
the_menace
01-31-07, 4:26 pm
...And that my friend is a confession of a true animal. Good shit bro.
Its funny because once you start living for yourself and decide to stop living the expected life that everyone else confroms to, people you thought were friends disappear, the same bitches that say i love you forever are now among the ones that ridicule you, and the society looks at you as if you dont belong. But fuck em, because i betcha you feel great that youre doing this shit for yourself. Good to hear youve started to open your eyes bro
One
god damn, isn't that the truth.
As for you Fletch, keep up the good work; the transition period from social butterfly to loner is awkward at first but I think most of us make it with relative ease because we see the greater goal.
Liftbig21
01-31-07, 7:53 pm
Nice bro. I was never much a super social one, I never cared for getting shitfaced simply to be shitfaced and bragging about how much I drank, never cared for the "norm" or any kind of conformity, or being surrounded by the biggest number of people to look popular. Shit, I've eaten alone once or twice in HS, these days it's all I do. I know how to be by myself, and to be slightly cliche and quote from a great song, "going down the only road I've ever known" Ain't nothin wrong with that bro, welcome to what's outside the backdoor of acceptable society, welcome to the iron life. Welcome to Animal.
Same here bro....Fletch i feel you man i went throught the same shit now only 2-3 friends call...i always get the shit about the bodybuiding shirts..or how it cut um into tank tops and all that other fuckin bullshit that comes with it ...take the shit in stride and take it out on the weights and no matter what,Keep pushin..
i know the feeling bro. When i was a senior in high school i got really into the bodybuilding life style. Alot of people thought it was weird that i tried to sneak a quick snack in during class but i didnt care, because i was doing it for me not them. Once your realize that all those other peoples opions dont matter, and that bodybuilding is a sport for yourself and no one else, all that bullshit that you use to do just seems so stupid. I would rather be a loner with a purpose than be one of the "popular kids" whos life is going absolutely no where. i hope you stick with it bro.
doomsdaylover
02-01-07, 12:17 am
As a bodybuilder for four years now, I can safely say that this lifestyle doesn't require you to be an anti-social loner, carefully weighing his meals out every minute in a dark appartment and ignoring your friends because they have questions. Yeah, we all take shit for our lifestyle. Yes, you look like a ****** if you go out to dinner and everyone's ordering fries and hot wings while you stick to a salad with chicken or a no-bun turkey burger. But those are the sacrifices we make.
If your friends act like assholes and disown you because of your new, healthy lifestyle and dedication to lifting well...that's sad. I still hang out with all my buds. I still lead a normal life and succeed at work. It might take smuggling a protein shake into a movie theatre or carefully planning out my meals for my entire work day and investing in 20 dollars worth of tuppaware for my chicken, rice, and broccoli concoctions but never would I abandon my family, my girl or my friends because of lifting.
TheNaturalG
02-01-07, 12:47 am
No disrespect Fletch, but there is a line that I don't think should be crossed. You want to have friends, things that are ordinary in your life otherwise the extraordinary bodybuilding lifestyle that gives yourself meaning is no longer there. It becomes your ego that gives yourself meaning. If these 'friends' were really your friends they either should have accepted you or you went about it the wrong way and did not accept them anymore. It is good to have a love for the iron and dedication to it but that doesn't mean to not let anything else into your life.
This is my opinion. I am a very outgoing person and don't see how being a loner would be something to be proud of that is beneficial. When you encounter someone that doesn't understand you, fuck it. No matter what, they are going to say what they want so just bite your tongue and let it go.
Yo, fletch. Been there. Started training young, in high school hung with jocks cuz thats whose in the gym. When I got serious and dedicated to just training and left the bullshit behind, those trendys and type of girls, slow became LONERS to me. The juicing comments, my reply became " if I had to explain, you wouldn't understand". True friends stayed, the rest forgot em. Made new friends with similar interest. your the company you keep. Keep the animals within reach, you'd be suprised the extra motivation you'll have
Train hard or GO!
shutthefuckup
04-17-07, 2:59 pm
Right on bro, be true to you, fuck the rest. In school they are all fake. A haters job is to hate, so let them hate. At the end of the day its all you.
ironshaolin
04-17-07, 3:20 pm
I kinda agree with nattyG, you can't shun anything and everything just so you can focus on lifting, because your life outside the gym beomes dull and boring. Lifting should be taken seriously, no doubt, but if every minute of everyday is just spent waiting on your next meal or your next session, you will soon be a lost cause. I'm glad you've found the iron, and you will see once you graduate high school all the shit that matters so much to everyone disappears. But you still need a solid support group behind you. Even if its one girl, or one or 2 really good friends, but a true friend will stick by you no matter what, try to understand you even if they don't agree with it. I totally believe to achieve sucess in anything, first step is you must do away with all the negative in your life. If friends just piss and moan about things that go wrong, make alot of excuses and judge people then they are negative and must be discarded, wish them well and move on. But its important to hold on to some, the good ones that will support you and stand by you because if you lose that you lose what it is to be human.
im glad you posted this bro...i feel the same way about how people who you thought were your friends can turn their back on you, but you gotta let it slide...people can be fake man, you gotta find the ones that are going to be true to who you are, no matter who you want to be. i agree with the natural g, there are a lot of people out there that will be by your side and it's important that you dont dismiss them for reasons you think are valid just as others have done to you.
ps, does your name "fletch" have to do with the movie with chevvy chase?
pump or die
04-27-07, 4:10 am
i was 15 man, that was the age i did the same thing. a year after an ankle injury that ruined my wrestling career, i told the coach, "i quit" and entered my 1st powerlifting contest, only with a weak 190lb press, it was still a big step for me. today, only the friends who are decicated in the sport are still there, people from years ago, are just a face in the hallway without a second glance. now i am the only person in a school of 1800 students that can bench 300+ while weighing under 200lbs, let me tell ya brothers, it feels damn good to show those who doubted me in the past, and just like machine's article "make em choke on it", thats exactly what they do with their words.
A loner? fuck yeah in this world, i am, and thats the way i like it
lol yaaa thats funny... i put up with that same shit as well...now i dont give 2 shits about anyone...i do this for me...i have nothing to prove to noone but myself. i guess everyone goes through that stage at school. you just got to ignore it and keep givin er
Pokoritel
05-01-07, 11:25 pm
Hey boys,
First let me introduce myself. My name is Evan, my friends call me Fletch, I'm pushin 18, 5'9ish sitting at about 175lbs around 10-11.5%. I've been lifting for a few years ut until about four months ago was never dedicated to bodybuilding...
After having my girlfriend at the time mention something about the fact that my biceps have gotten smaller, something inside me clicked and I spent the next few days reading over Wraths Journey, wondering if I can do it, no fuck that... knowing that I can do it, wondering if I can handle the shit that comes with it. I lost myself that day. The next day I told my girlfriend that I find what i had been looking for, and the day after I broke the news to my lacrosse coach that his captain wasnt returning his senior year.
After I got my diet cleaned up and started liftin like a man again things fell into place. I carried myself differently, with a quiet confidence that only iron can give yah know boys? That look in my eyes that others notice. Then the questions started coming, why do you do this? you know your gonna get fat? didnt you know creatine shrinks your nuts? I just laughed... Most called me obsessed, shit most CALL me obsessed, my parents lecture me daily, my girl left me because she couldnt share me with the iron, and a fun rumor started around my school that I was on steroids.
Before I fell into this I had alot of friends yah know? I was always with the "jocks" and cheerleaders, sat at that so called fucking "popular" table with the fake girls that would sleep with you at the drop of a hat then talk shit about your shirt as soon as you turn around... When I started this journey everything changed, I couldnt eat what i have to without having the constant hits about steroids, jokes about the shirts i wear that have bodybuild sayings on... it just got old guys. haha now they don't call, I don't sit with them, I don't have to put up with the constant gossip, I don't have to stand in the middle of their big group between classes, I dont look forward to hanging out with them after school, nothing... The only thing that matters now are those that hung by my ass when I decided not to be "normal"...
the only thing that matters now is the iron, and damnit the iron is good... Now we're living
bodybuilding is living,
Fletch
I went through everything you have and I realized what my life was meant for right after following Wraths Journey as well. His Journey was the first thing I followed when I came here. It changed my life forever. I had many ppl callin me on a daily basis, and now I dont even carry my cell phone with me. All them girls jumpin all over me, and now they stare and attack me violently with their eyes. Its funny how life and people around you change. Do I miss all that, hell no brother. I am an Animal now and when I am dead my tombstone better say An Animal Lays Here or else someone is getting their asses haunted.
Iron_Spirit
05-04-07, 6:08 pm
... don't see how being a loner would be something to be proud of that is beneficial. When you encounter someone that doesn't understand you, fuck it. No matter what, they are going to say what they want so just bite your tongue and let it go.
Biting your tongue and being something other than yourself in order to be surrounded by "friends" is something I just can't do. If I have to be alone for saying what I think, let it be. Because I am proud of what I believe in and how I follow those beliefs, with tolerance to others aswell.
A friend doesn't have to be or think like you, but at the very least he's got to be a person that stands by your side without caring about your social status, economic status, where you're from or what you do. Only caring about who you are.
ballance bro....all things to be considered....just lifting...with no friends....not good....we are really human...but WITH....the Animal Spirit....but I gotta tell ya bro...I love to see the younger animals on this forum with your spirit....keep up the great post here bro....we are always in your corner
I work out in a town that understands very little about bodybuilding and what it means to be animal. I get stupid questions everyday like, "What's in that gallon jug you're drinking from" like my water is the secret. People stop and watch as my partner and I take to the weight pile with an intensity that is unparalleled around here. Half of them think we're either insane or disgusting, the other half want to be just like us. But in the end none of them are willing to do the work, cook the meals, skip a movie or two to pay for supps and live life like it was a mission. Bodybuilding is a fraternity. When you pledge you leave some friends behind but your new friends, those already in the house will always be there for you. Welcome to Phi-Beta-Fuckyeah!
ballance bro....all things to be considered....just lifting...with no friends....not good....we are really human...but WITH....the Animal Spirit....but I gotta tell ya bro...I love to see the younger animals on this forum with your spirit....keep up the great post here bro....we are always in your corner
Very true actually....good point !!!
once you stop caring about what other think of you its like being set free. if you like me fine if you dont i dont care. i hate being judged,i dont judge others so dont judge me. i do have a few good friends and i would do anything for them and they would do anything for me. being popular is fuckin overated.