Exactly.
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In the scenario that I constructed, the man admitted that perhaps the gym was all consuming and he immediately took things into a spiritual direction. This would bring balance into a life and relationship.
And, for me, at least, if a woman was turned off by the subject of GOD or spiritual fitness...then it would be a clear sign, for me, to drop her like heavy dumbbells upon reaching failure.
But what I don't understand is how a woman is attracted to and begins to date a weightlifter....but somehow demands that the very activity that makes the man physically attractive to her somehow be dialed down.
The only scenario I see any scale back request being valid is if a woman begins to notice a bad health trend developing in the man she loves and if steroids are involved to make a push to go natural. Especially if there is a honorable marriage involved and if, uh, "performance" begins to become an issue. Then, perhaps, I could see a request being made to scale things back . And then maybe a legitimate life & health concern could be cited out of genuine care.
Other than that if a mere dating relationship seeks too much time to the detriment of physical and, more importantly, spiritual health....then its time for her to go in my opinion.
We have to assume the lion's share of the blame on this one guys. After my split It was obvious the poor girl had no idea there was a huge difference between lifting weights and training. She just wasn't equipped to handle it, and thinking back she never really had a chance. It was almost a year after that before I even considered dating again. In a matter of fact I didn't really have a serious relationship for a few years after. When I did decide, I was upfront and direct. Most importantly I stressed the point that barring any incidents or accidents My level of committment would not waver and most likely increase. Needless to say there weren't many takers! LOL!!